Why I Let My 14-Year-Old Move Out

My 14-year-old daughter, DQ, is moving out. It’s weird; I never thought I’d type these words before she turned 18. But here I am, standing by as she packs up her bags and prepares to leave the nest. My nest. The one I have padded with protection and comfort since the day she was born, through a messy divorce, during financially tight times, and in her tumultuous teen years. She is flying the coop with my assistance when I drive her a full three hours away to live with her father. And this might just be the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. ...more
hi,  i am struggling with my 16 year old boy right now.  we were homeless for about a year ...more

In the Best Interest of the Children: Custody Considerations II

Decisions, Decisions I make decisions for my Darling Boys, intending to promote their welfare and wellbeing, every day....more

It's not easy to come to a great solution for the children. There will always be compromise. ...more

Discipline and Co-parenting

Disciplining children can be hard enough as it is in a traditional family.  But add divorce, joint custody and getting remarried to the equation and it makes it even more difficult. The girl’s father was very lazy, nothing bothered him and it took pulling teeth and ultimatums to get him to lift a finger.  Now I’m in a relationship that is quite the opposite:  Frank does things way before I even need to ask.  The problem with this type of personality though is that he is ‘Johnny on the Spot’ when it comes to my girls and the proper discipline. ...more

Young Women Need to Be Selective not Selected

As you know, if you’ve read my very first post, that I share joint custody of my two girls with my ex.  Just recently, the jerk that is my ex husband decided to quit working so that his parenting time wouldn’t be reduced to only weekends.  This resulted in the judge ’awarding’ us 50/50 parenting time.  So now, I have the girls from Saturday to Wednesday (4 nights) and he has Wednesday to Saturday (3 nights).  ...more

Great post and good reminders, although I disagree about not marrying in your 20s... I ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: Share the Parenting Load

Periodically, we will feature one of the 10 Commandments of Co-Parenting put forth by Lynn Nelson, Public Education Director for the Institute on Race and Poverty, at the University of Minnesota. Lynn and her husband committed to co-parenting their son after their divorce. Today's featured Commandment is... Don't allow all of the parenting tasks to fall to one parent. ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: Observe Appropriate Boundaries

Periodically, we will feature one of the 10 Commandments of Co-Parenting put forth by Lynn Nelson, Public Education Director for the Institute on Race and Poverty, at the University of Minnesota. Lynn and her husband committed to co-parenting their son after their divorce. Today's featured Commandment is... Observe appropriate boundaries. ...more

Co-Parenting Book Giveaway...only one week left!

Don't forget...we're giving away one of the very helpful books listed in our resources section.  Entering the giveaway is as easy as leaving a comment.  Remember, we must have a minimum of 10 entrants by Jan. 15th to proceed with the drawing.  To date, we have only 2. So what's stopping you?  Leave a comment, tell us what you would like to see on the site, share you co-parenting story.  Enter today! the fine print ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: It's the little things

When people share their not-so-great co-parenting stories with us, sometimes it's the little things that seem to create the most drama and conflict.  A simple miscommunication about a pick-up or drop-off time, for example, can lead to accusations of disrespect and a re-hashing of all the old complaints and bad feelings that lead to the initial break-up. ...more

I'm almost to the end of it. My daughter is 17, and pretty much makes up her own mind at this ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: Eliminate the Middlekid

Periodically, we will feature one of the 10 Commandments of Co-Parenting put forth by  Lynn Nelson, Public Education Director for the Institute on Race and Poverty, at the University of Minnesota.  Lynn and her husband committed to co-parenting their son after their divorce.  Today's featured Commandment is... Resolve conflicts without putting kids in the middle. <!--break--> ...more

Co-Parenting 101: The Podcast

After our great experience last month as featured guests on Peace-It-Together Pittsburgh, a local radio program, we're making moves to set up a Co-Parenting 101 podcast.  Will you tune?  Would you call in?  What topics would you like to hear discussed? ...more