This Writing Life

Writing is really weird.But it's weird in good ways.Some times I sit here and I think something, and then I write it out, and the most amazing thing happens... people read it!  If I post it to one of the other blogs I write for, sometimes tens of thousands of people read it.And I don't really know what to do with that....more

The joys and challenges of having two kids


In The Retreat of Happiness: How to Ditch the Pursuit and Let Happiness Find You

Not going to lie, I can be bit of a drama queen.And I don’t say that just because I’ve spent most of my life acting on stage.I’m an emotional person, what can I say?...more

If You Want to Be Happy, Don't Have Kids

If you want to be happy, you shouldn’t have kids. That’s a fact. Or at least, Time magazine and the sociologists who conducted this study so. Parents get less sleep, have less money, and less independence. Parents have more stress, more marital arguments, more expenses. And although those facts are indisputable, when I see them my feathers get all kinds of ruffled. I feel defensive. Angry. ...more
The response to the article and indeed some of the research on this is interesting because it ...more

A kestrel for a wench

A small kestrel hawk hovers outside my study window. She hangs in the air, only the tips of her wings quivering almost imperceptibly as she fixes her sights on the something in the grass that will be her meal.  Freedom, power, fearlessness — she is all of these. But she does not glower with menace, for she is also patience and grace. Why do I assume her to be female? Is it her determination? Her single-mindedness? Or merely her beauty?  Her size? Perhaps I confuse her with the doomed creature in A Kestrel for a Knave....more

So Often, It's the Little Things (NaBloPoMo, Day 2)

Today’s NaBloPoMo Prompt: Talk about a surprise that made you happy.I tend to lean towards happiness, in general. I just feel like it takes more energy to be unhappy, so it doesn't take a lot to make me smile and I don't need grand gestures to feel loved. (But grand gestures are always fun and welcome!)...more

I'm Free!

It's nearly the end of the year and I'm burnt out. My brand, Black Widow Balm, has just turned three years old. I had been working in a bookstore for five years and I quit in March to focus on expanding my brand. I moved back to my hometown a little over a month ago and I'm adjusting to living in the house I grew up with me and my kitten, Chingu, who I adopted in June....more

Finding Joy When it Doesn't Feel Easy

So, I've decided to take BlogHer's NaBloPoMo challenge for December and post every day. The theme this month is joy- fitting for the season, right? It just so happens that it is the word I have chosen as my mantra these last few months, in hopes of more than just getting through....more

I've cried at the bar.

Like REALLY cried at the bar. Sometimes I get a little sad. Surprisingly, less often than I expected. I guess that tells me that separating from Sev was really the right choice for our lives. I remember when my ex-husband and I split up, I was SAD. Really, really sad. ...more