Being the LGBT Parent of an Infant

Being an LGBT parent is in most ways no different from being any other kind of parent. We change our kids’ diapers and read them bedtime stories just like anyone else. Still, the law and society discriminate against and marginalize us in many ways, giving LGBT-headed families extra hurdles to overcome. ...more

LGBT Parenting and the Inevitable Questions

I've just read the Crib Sheet for LGBT parents of newborns by Dana of Mombian. As always, she provides spot-on advice and tips for LGBTQ+ families (and their allies). It's funny: now that I have “big kids” (ages eight and five), so much of what we do as queer parents just seems old hat. Our friends know us; our neighbors know us; the school knows us; the pharmacists and the waitresses at our local diner and the soccer coaches and even the bank tellers know us. So it’s rare that we have to explain ourselves to our larger world. But I remember a time when it felt like we were constantly explaining and how tiring and often frustrating that was. ...more

Today We Told MY Mother

“I’d rather be black than gay because when you’re black you don’t have to tell your mother.”  ~Charles Pierce, 1980...more

Many, many thanks to you all for the kind, supportive, and positive comments. It was hard to ...more

There Is a World of Difference Between "in Spite of" and "Because of"

Sitting in the pint-sized, putty-colored kid chairs, we asked ourselves what so many parents have asked before us: In this new, large community -- the first of many so big we'd be lucky to know the names of all the people she'd come to know in it -- would she bloom? Or wilt? And another question, not unfamiliar to many parents before us, but for us fraught in its own unique way, since our right to our parenthoods and families is far from presumptive, years from "natural." We wondered: At what point would our difference make a difference to her? ...more

That lets a child with two mothers write that phrase in school without fear, let alone put it on ...more