Is there really such a thing as transgender children? Someone who is transgender is a person who does not identify themselves as being the sex they were born as.Lots of little children want to be and act like their opposite sex. Sometimes this kind of behavior is just a phase and they quickly grow out of it and begin to like and want to be the sex they were born as, but that is not always the case.Sometimes the phase doesn’t end and identifying as their opposite sex persists and becomes more intense over time....more
Being an LGBT parent is in most ways no different from being any other kind of parent. We change our kids’ diapers and read them bedtime stories just like anyone else. Still, the law and society discriminate against and marginalize us in many ways, giving LGBT-headed families extra hurdles to overcome.
I've just read the Crib Sheet for LGBT parents of newborns by Dana of Mombian. As always, she provides spot-on advice and tips for LGBTQ+ families (and their allies). It's funny: now that I have “big kids” (ages eight and five), so much of what we do as queer parents just seems old hat. Our friends know us; our neighbors know us; the school knows us; the pharmacists and the waitresses at our local diner and the soccer coaches and even the bank tellers know us. So it’s rare that we have to explain ourselves to our larger world.
But I remember a time when it felt like we were constantly explaining and how tiring and often frustrating that was.
Sitting in the pint-sized, putty-colored kid chairs, we asked ourselves what so many parents have asked before us: In this new, large community -- the first of many so big we'd be lucky to know the names of all the people she'd come to know in it -- would she bloom? Or wilt? And another question, not unfamiliar to many parents before us, but for us fraught in its own unique way, since our right to our parenthoods and families is far from presumptive, years from "natural." We wondered: At what point would our difference make a difference to her?