“They’re only young once.”The words are superimposed on an idyllic picture of a child in nature or a beach with footprints leading to the horizon. There’s always a hazy filter. The bottom caption implores you to leave a counter full of dirty dishes, to eschew housework, to be present for your children for they will grow up before your very eyes. We are reminded that no one has ever said they wish they had spent more time doing housework, and less time with the kids.It’s a lovely sentiment.It’s bullshit....more
When we were kids, Pinocchio taught us the outcomes of lies. Actually studies say that nose is one of the main components to detect lies; nose flares, red nose.. etc.Studies also say that a lie can be detected from that person's body language; position of the head, hands including posture of the body ; because body doesn't lie. And no one can hide the elevated heart rate or metabolism. In our daily life there inevitable moments that we had to lie. Some lies involuntarily slip from our mouth.The toddlers lie for attention , teenagers lie for sneaky work and adults lie to save their or someone else’s life. The difference between sociopathic lies and non sociopathic lies is that there is no violence included, attempted or planned. Sometimes we find ourselves in the middle of lying or not lying dilemma.Apart from apologising boss for getting late, some lies can be daunting. So This post is about the art of little white lies....more
I know that aevery single person uses social media for different reasons. I understand that our motives for posting certain things and leaving out others are all over the board ranging from wanting to feel accepted to a deep rooted craving for attention.
My son is not a good bluffer. Every time we play UNO, he lets out shouts of "yes!" and "you guys are going down!" in reaction to the cards that he is dealt. And when I do catch him in a lie, he has at least a dozen little fidgety facial ticks and moves that gives him away....more
Do you think that sometimes the truth is more HARMFUL than a lie? Recently I caught someone in a lie. When I asked her about it her response was, "if I told the truth, it would hurt more." Hmmm sound familiar? So that got me thinking ...more
I cannot be the only one…who attempts to find the balance between my child becoming a world-class liar and not stifling his imagination when he is sharing his latest exaggerated tale. Don’t misunderstand me, I have very little patience for the, “I didn’t do that,” type of fibs when I clearly saw Sonny Boy squeeze toothpaste all over the bathroom counter, I am speaking more of the, “John’s dad came to school juggling chainsaws, he dropped one on his foot and cut off his thumb toe, but luckily had an extra toe in his tool box,” variety of lies....more
"It is more from carelessness about truth than from intentionally lying that there is so much falsehood in the world." - Samuel JohnsonLooking back over my 13 years of parenting so far, I see many common "truths" about parenthood that have proven to be more fiction than fact. Dishonesty sucks. As someone who prizes truth, especially regarding parenting, I thought I'd shed my own personal light on some of these beliefs.There are certainly more (feel free to add your own), but these five ring particularly untrue for me. ...more
A few days ago I was travelling on business and stopped into a gas station to refill the car and grab something to snack on. I picked out my favorites - a cold Coca Cola and some of those yummy Mini Sweet Tarts. I took my place in line to check out, which happened to be about three places back. I waited patiently, leisurely contemplating just how much longer it would be until I arrived home. Some time passed and I realized the line wasn't moving....more
Do you tell little (or maybe big) lies at work? Now, don't lie to make yourself feel better!
As I was reading the article "Liar, Liar, Pantsuit on Fire!" from Success Magazine, I was a bit surprised by the results of their survey of more than 1,200 American workers. We all know small lies happen, but some of the nuanced answers were amusing and telling. Such as: