You gotta stick with your lie

My son is not a good bluffer. Every time we play UNO, he lets out shouts of  "yes!" and "you guys are going down!" in reaction to the cards that he is dealt. And when I do catch him in a lie, he has at least a dozen little fidgety facial ticks and moves that gives him away....more

Truth or Lies

Do you think that sometimes the truth is more HARMFUL than a lie? Recently I caught someone in a lie. When I asked her about it her response was, "if I told the truth, it would hurt more." Hmmm sound familiar? So that got me thinking ...more

Liar Liar or Dreamy Dreamer?

I cannot be the only one…who attempts to find the balance between my child becoming a world-class liar and not stifling his imagination when he is sharing his latest exaggerated tale.  Don’t misunderstand me, I have very little patience for the, “I didn’t do that,” type of fibs when I clearly saw Sonny Boy squeeze toothpaste all over the bathroom counter, I am speaking more of the, “John’s dad came to school juggling chainsaws, he dropped one on his foot and cut off his thumb toe, but luckily had an extra toe in his tool box,” variety of lies....more

5 Big Fat Lies About Parenting

"It is more from carelessness about truth than from intentionally lying that there is so much falsehood in the world." - Samuel JohnsonLooking back over my 13 years of parenting so far, I see many common "truths" about parenthood that have proven to be more fiction than fact. Dishonesty sucks. As someone who prizes truth, especially regarding parenting, I thought I'd shed my own personal light on some of these beliefs.There are certainly more (feel free to add your own), but these five ring particularly untrue for me. ...more
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Ask Kate - Lies of the Lottery

A few days ago I was travelling on business and stopped into a gas station to refill the car and grab something to snack on. I picked out my favorites - a cold Coca Cola and some of those yummy Mini Sweet Tarts. I took my place in line to check out, which happened to be about three places back. I waited patiently, leisurely contemplating just how much longer it would be until I arrived home. Some time passed and I realized the line wasn't moving....more

Do You Lie at Work?

Do you tell little (or maybe big) lies at work? Now, don't lie to make yourself feel better! As I was reading the article "Liar, Liar, Pantsuit on Fire!" from Success Magazine, I was a bit surprised by the results of their survey of more than 1,200 American workers. We all know small lies happen, but some of the nuanced answers were amusing and telling. Such as: ...more

The One Milestone They Should Skip

The other day as I scrolled through my facebook feed, I noticed a beautiful picture of a first-time mother gazing at her precious baby. The love on her face was immense; I could imagine the hopes and dreams she had for her tiny bundle. She looked happy and at peace. The fact that there might be a day when this precious child looks into her eyes and tells her a lie must have been the furthest thing from her mind. In those moments of pure joy we cannot fathom that one day our  kids will do things we despise....more

I Lied To My Child And I Feel Terrible

Today I told my daughter a horrible lie. She was sitting on her bed and examining her thighs. She stated matter-of-factly that she wished that her thigh was skinnier and the same size as the other. "Actually I want my thighs to match and be skinny like my friends."I swallowed back a huge lump in my throat and convincingly lied to her. I said,"Sweetie, don't worry, your leg is swollen right now from the surgery. The swelling will go back down and everything will be fine. Now go get dressed."...more

Tell me the matter what...

I believe in honesty. I value the idea and I admire the practice. I told my first lie at the age of 4. The first lie I remember that is. I told it to my father. It was so silly. I clearly had no concept of how easy it would be to verify my "story". I remember him telling me that he was going to "check with my friend's dad" to verify that I was invited to stay the night. The people lived DIRECTLY behind us. It was a short walk. The idea for the sleepover was cooked up by 2 four year olds. Suffice to say, I slept at home that night....more

White Lies and Valentines

Every once in a while, one of my clients innocently asks, “Are you married?” This always stops me in my tracks. Even if I see it coming, it forces me to pause, to think about how to answer. Image: ish called wanda via Flickr ...more
@Karen Milling Wow. I don't expect people to be that nosy. I suppose you could equivocate and ...more