My Updates from Finley's Birth and the Days Shortly After

Before Finley was born, I remember being determined not to post labour updates on facebook. I wanted to surprise the world with a photo of my boy and a 'Meet Finley born such and such date at such and such time weighing such and such.' I had it all planned out....more

.It's My (Pity) Party and I'll Cry if I Want To

I am having a bad day. The kind where you want a big hug from your bed and your duvet and you just want to cry.Why did this happen? Why us? Have I done something in life to bring such a negative thing on myself?Why do I find myself having to sit across from a very visibly pregnant woman......more

Finley's Story From Other Perspectives

I recently asked my close friends who lived in Naples if they would take a moment and write down Finley's story in their words. We were extremely lucky while we lived there to have met some wonderful families who supported us through all of the ups and downs. Jo, Stu, Skye and Aidie lived right across from us with their dogs Bailey and Gemma (and eventually Bella). Jo would have been my go to for when Finley was born. She is a brilliant mum to her kiddies and I loved spending time with them all. There was one of my ultrasounds that Steve couldn't make it to..............more

You Light The Night

On Finley's half birthday, several lovely people lit candles for him and sent photos for me to see. There were so many I couldn't possibly post them all individually...Continue reading at http://dear-finley.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/you-light-night.html Lisa xx...more

Finding a New Normal Through the Grief

When I saw this posted on facebook, it was as though somebody had taken the words right out of my mind. I often find myself wondering who I am now. I know that I'm not the same person as I was before Finley died, or even before I got pregnant and dedicated my life to being a mother.So who am I now? I'm not sure....more

Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday seems to be a fairly common theme for bloggers. I've never taken part, but today seemed like as good of day as any to try and remember the good things in my life. I find it too easy to get consumed in my grief, feeling sorry for myself, and generally feeling pretty crap about life. I hope to spend at least a little time each week to reflect on the things I can be thankful for.  Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. -Cicero  I'm thankful for:  ...more

Mixed Bag of Thoughts

I have so many things going on in my head right now, swirling round and round like a bit of a whirlpool. I'm finding it hard to focus on any one thing for a long time, without my mind jumping back to something else.-----------I attended the consultant appointment on Wednesday. All of my medical records were there, and I also managed to obtain a copy of the post mortem results....more

What Not to Say When a Baby Dies

Today Finley would have been 21 weeks old...  I am currently sitting here wishing I could remember what I was planning to write about. I spent hours waiting for my husband to get off of the laptop so that I could write it, and now it has completely fled from my mind.  Instead I'm going to write about a conversation I was having with a friend earlier today -  the things that people say when they find out your baby has died to try and comfort you. But usually (in my experience) these things just end up making you feel worse....more
I am so sorry for your loss! more