When Your Child Leaves For College: The Heartbreak We're Supposed to Get Over in a Weekend

It started senior year. A sudden awareness of the time being reduced to "months left"..."weeks left". I kept it to myself, this mental hourglass. Last back-to-school shop. Last Halloween. Last Spring Break. Then it was May. Last day of making her coffee, packing her school lunch. Was she aware too? We never talked about it....more


When I was in my early twenties, either I really did enjoy spontaneity, or I was so insistent that I enjoyed it that I forced it with an enthusiastic smile. I'm not really sure which it was, but at any rate I lived my life with a lot of unpredictability and I don't remember a lot of fear involved. I made changes all the time and to varying degrees; Whether it was a last-minute night on the town or I decided to rent a U-Haul and move to a different city or apartment, I never seemed to sit still long enough to get too comfortable or to reflect on what was really going on....more

Be The Change

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for....more

Falling Down

I have to be someone else for a little while. Or maybe a long while, depending on how things go. You see, I'm changing careers and need to protect myself against misinterpretations of my most opinionated postings. Which means if I'm going to blog, I have to blog anonymously. And I need to blog, right now.This morning I got an email message from the manager in charge of my dream job. She was kindly dropping a line to let me know that my resume was not shortlisted for interviewing. I say 'kindly' because she was under no obligation to email me, and the message was generous in tone....more


I am reaching a definite point of transition in my life. My children (twins) are 18, seniors in high school. They are elbow deep into college applications, and the excitement on their faces radiates as they inch closer to completing the K-12 marathon. I can tell they are itching to sprint to the end, grab that diploma, and strike out on their next adventure as young adults. And I share that excitement....more

The Beginning of NaBloPoMo

It's November 1st. November 1st?!?! November!!! Where did the year go? I remember this time last year looking forward to 2014, thinking it would be "the year".  ...more

What NOT to take for granted...

when life gives you lemons...Things that give you peace of mind.When your children are loved, and safe during the times you are not around.Watching your littles make friends and be loved by people other than yourself.Arriving safely after travel.True blue friends that you can laugh and cry with.Ability to be totally honest, about everything with a friend who doesn't judge you or gossip about you....more

What do I want to be?

We have a lot of firsts in our lives...Tomorrow will be my first official day as a SAHW (stay at home wife).  It should have started earlier than this but I agreed to do P/T consulting for the company I had been working for.  ...more
you are so lucky, I would try the community theater. that would be so much fun.more

Face-to-Face with My Empty Nest Life

I am at last face-to-face with my empty nest life, even if I am still in denial. Today, my first day with an empty house, I want to remain tucked within my sheets, indulging in a flood of salty tears that have already soaked through and stained my pillow. I have no desire to open my eyes and indulge them to a surrounding wall of obvious sunshine and warmth outside.My heart is breaking! And this is only my first day....more
Linda Anselmi And it is very lovely to see you here, too, Linda! I'd like to say that I am back, ...more


I have very few friends "my age". I do not know why or how this happens....but it is true.I attended a cancer benefit last night with two of my girlfriends with the intent of meeting a group of blended couples and others that would be there. It was lovely.The band that was hosting is a favorite, notorious for playing 90's hip-hop.....which, when you are 44, was the stuff you cherish as "your jam"; the anthems of your youth and dancing fun days....more