Way Ahead of the Holiday Crowds

Forget crazy sales, other people's expectations and holiday stress. ...more

I'm Not Asking You to Lie . . .

When someone asks your opinion, resist their given permission to judge- Q: Does this shirt make my stomach look bad?...more

Step Away From the Drama

Gentle. That's it. ...more


"Action is the antidote to despair." - Joan Baez...more

Looking for Love in All the Right Places



"Our task must be to free ourselves by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty." - Albert Einstein...more

Who You Calling Self Centered?

When was the last time you watched a leaf make its way downstream and get caught up in the flow of a river? The leaf might swirl in circles for several seconds or minutes before breaking free, being dragged under or snagging along the bank. Or it might float for hundreds of miles.   ...more

The Skinny on the Dip

...the Dip, which focuses primarily on motivation, aims to instill in readers the constant reminder to remember you’re in “the Dip” when you find yourself struggling through the proverbial darkness before the dawn that we all face when we are striving to master something or achieve a particular goal.  You know the wisdom tidbit that says, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”?  The Dip falls somewhere between your second and 999th step, but you’ll likely feel it most when you encounter difficult obstacles or unpredictable situations that seem designed ...more

See You Later Hater

A simple and effective way to reduce negative emotions when thinking of someone you do not get along with is to separate the behavior from the person. Break them up. Think of the behavior and then think about the person. This moment of reflection will focus you on what you have in common instead of reinforcing what you perceive you don't. By taking a minute to think you limit your own reaction or overeaction to one behavior. The pause will increase your capacity for understanding. We all are a bundles of emotions, thoughts and coping skills. We all have light and shadow....more

Using the 10-10-10 Strategy for Effective Decision Making

From the first moment a friend told me about Suzy Welch’s 10-10-10 strategy for decision making, it struck home and had an immediate impact on me because at that point I was revisiting and evaluating the aftermath of a choice I had made a decade ago.  Using Welch’s strategy would have been incredibly supportive of helping me make a more informed and appropriate decision ten years ago, so I immediately added the 10-10-10 approach to my toolbox of decision-making skills....more