To Love Again

How would you know that you have already moved on? How would you know that the past doesn't bother you anymore? How would you know that your heart is free again and ready to love?...more

The grass isn't always greener..

I have been noticing over the past  few months a couple of  friends who were were in great marriages (or so it seemed) or relationships who decided to pull the "grass is greener on the other side" move. They left one relationship to jump into another without giving themselves time to heal and process.  And now they are regretting it.  Was the grass really greener?  Maybe for the moment or for a few months until the newness wore off, but then the truth came out.  The reality set in....more

Do I Like White Men or Just One White Guy?

 Lately, I find myself in a conundrum of sorts. When you're playing the game called "dating", to be a good player you need to know what you want. That's where my quandary begins. I'm no longer sure what I want, or maybe I should say, I'm no longer sure what I'm attracted to....more
“I'm thinking that my pheromones must be different, I seem to be this white man magnet. ...more

Who Are You Calling a Cougar?

"I’m too old for you and you’ re too young for me."I spent the last year thinking those words, but now I’m like "Hey! What’s up with this double standard?? Why am I labeled a 'cougar', while men who date younger women get pats on the back and told to make sure they get a script for Viagra?"  But who says the world is fair right?...more

Why It's Hard to Leave a Toxic Relationship

Are you in a toxic relationship? One that feels good to you at times, but your spirit (not to mention your family and friends) is urging you to leave!Have you tried to leave?More than once?But the next thing you know you’re right back in his bed?It’s not just the sex either. Though for sure explosive sex will make us double back to relationships we know don’t deserve us.You don’t quite know what it is, but what you do know is that your will to leave is no match for your desire to stay.I was there. ...more

Dating 101: How Long Should You Wait To Have Sex?

A Time Out Survey set out to answer the tough questions of dating. They asked their readers, “after how many dates is it appropriate to have sex?” and the answer may surprise you.1 in 10 people consider sex a reasonable request at the end of a first date, but the worldwide average answer was 3.53 dates. That means somewhere between the end of your third date and the beginning of your fourth, sex is appropriate....more
SicilianQueen84 is it weird that i find that impressive?  I think the hookup culture is ...more

Forgiving in Relationships-Have You Tried It?

Oh no, the filthy word, FORGIVE!  Who wants to do that after you have been hurt in a relationship?  Shouldn’t you go on hating your ex or being mad at your partner if they have done you wrong?  Don’t you deserve to be angry if you have been hurt?I believe you are entitled to feeling angry if you have been hurt.  How you deal with the anger may be the problem.  ...more

A Guy's Point of View

There seem to be so many blogs on relationship issues and the lack of empathy or compassion within those relationships.  I truly believe that there is a communication issue between men and woman, that converstions need to be translated although we speak the same language.  To this point, I have just started a blog called lostinmanslation.  It's just what it sounds like.  My goal is to get both men and woman to examine what is being said or more importantly, implied, in a conversation between the sexes.  Please check out my page.  As comments come in, I'm hoping...more
Very interested in how it is possible for a man and woman to be having the same conversation, ...more

The Moment I Realized My Partner Is More In It Than I Am

My friend Julia believes that in every relationship, one person loves, and the other person is loved. She also believes - or rather, correctly assumes - that in my relationship with Chris, I am the one who is loved. Chris is a giver. A provider. He's generous in ways I couldn't begin to describe....more