Stop Running Men Off With Your Needy, Insecure Behavior

It’s time to woman up! You DON’T need a man to be happy. You grew up feeling alone and unloved. Your father was emotionally unavailable, hyper-critical or abusive. You have a low sense of self-worth.You keep looking for man’s conditional love but you gravitate to men who are non-communicating, unfaithful, deceptive and abusive—men who somehow remind you of your father....more

12 Absolutes You Must Expel From Your Life

You can’t ride a dead horse.You can sit on a dead horse.You can lay on a dead horse.Put a saddle blanket, saddle, and bridle on a dead horse.But, it’s impossible to ride a dead horse.Why?Besides common-sense?It’s the grandaddy of an exercise in futility, a totally pointless endeavor!...more

Train's Tracks

I was in my early 20’s when a friend shared with me that while in college she had “trains” ran on her.  A “train” is when a person is engaged in a continuous occurrence of sex with one partner, followed by another partner, followed by another partner, and so on and so on.  My friend said that in her case, those partners were in a well-known fraternity.  You guessed it.  She said she was in its “sister” organization, although not a traditional sorority....more

Insecurity: the Fine print of Creative License?

On June 7, 2014, Laurel Regan, at posted, "Some Questions on Creative Self-Confidence." Being in the creative arts myself, I found the topic of her discussion and fan Comments thought provoking. In this post, I hope to reassure anyone who creates that they are a creator, anyone who paints that they are a painter, and anyone who writes that they are a writer....more
Perhaps the problem is in trying to assign ourselves titles at all, let alone to define ...more

Finding my inner self esteem

After over 40 years of feeling miserable about myself, I have decided to focus this next year to develop my inner self esteem. While highly successful with a wonderful family, I struggle with caring for and about myself. I have been given all the tools to do so and I have struggled to ale care of myself. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, verbal and emotional abuse. After years of punishing myself, I finally have stopped drinking like a fish, making bad decisions with men, and spending money. However, now I need to rebuild my inner self....more

Why Sarah Cuts. (The ugly side of low self-esteem.)

 My interview with a 16 year old cutter....more

How Volunteering Builds Self-Esteem

Many teens today do have healthy self-esteem.  I find teens that engage in one of 3 specific activities to have the highest self-esteem and the most positive self-regard. Theses activities center around doing for others and/or have a higher purpose beyond self....more

How to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is basically how we see ourselves in relation to others. It’s not fixed, which means it’s changeable. We all have good days and bad days, but every day is a new opportunity for changing or repairing our self-esteem. To treat ourselves right.  Here are just 5 quick tips that will help repair your self-esteem.1. Have a positive outlook...more

It's a hairy situation.

I've been lying to you all.  I've shamelessly misrepresented myself. Last week, there was a mix-up and I missed an appointment to get my bangs trimmed (that is my fringe for OG English speakers).  I've needed a bang trim since before I went to NYC in fact, and instead of drawing myself as I actually look, I have continued to draw myself with cute short bangs. I'm sorry.  But there is a reason....more

LITM's Evolution

My long time readers already know this story pretty well. But I thought it might be fun to have it all down in one concise place. Plus there are a lot of new readers that may be interested to know how it all began. ...more