the fight / choose happiness

the fight / choose happiness--Last night my husband and I got in a fight.Which is weird to say out loud, because even when we do fight, I really only tell my sister or my best friend, Anamarie…not the whole internet....more

Let's Get Real. 5 Reasons I Don't Have It All Together

The online world is a beautiful thing isn’t it? It is a place for learning about the world, sharing your knowledge, exploring a new skill, connecting with others....more

A Letter To My Husband

 This Saturday marks my 17 year wedding anniversary.It seems so strange to say that out loud. Time does seem to fly doesn't it? Saying I've been married for 17 years makes me feel 2 things;1. Very old!2. Very proud!If you have read my story then you know that I met my husband when we were 11 years old. We became a couple when we were 14 and we have been a couple ever since. We have now been together for 26 years!...more

To avoid divorce, stay away from "professional listeners"

Let's take a mental break today....more

Let Me and My Womb Live: Stop Policing the Wombs of Women

A woman's womb is such a delicate, creative, innovative place that not only is a designated place where the uterus is located but it is also a place where babies and ideas are conceived in this delicate place. This particular article is about the conception of ideas rather than babies. I am going to give birth to a matter that is such a sensitive, raw and private matter...the policing of women's womb especially those who are childless. *sigh* Let me start off by saying that I am an unapologetic married woman who is childless....more

Married, Not Pregnant and It's OK

Before you get married, you hear" When are you getting married?" or "Why aren't you getting married yet?"Then, when you get married it's all about having kids. I am pretty sure it was even mentioned a time or two at our wedding reception. They try to make it all cutesy and sweet but it's the basic, "So when are the kids coming?" "Kids anytime soon?"...more
AdrienneCookie I do still ask but as you said, to close friends. I would never ask anyone else ...more

Thankful for singleness

 I had a plan.It was a good one, too. I’d seen it work out so many other times, so I decided I was all in.I was going to go to college, fall in love and then get married....more

My Divorce No Longer Defines Me

I’m currently settling into life as a single person with a new home in a new city.  I am also looking to make some new friends.  Thanks to the internet, it’s now fairly easy to connect with people who have similar interests and also live nearby.After doing a bit of research, I joined a few walking, writing and social groups that, hopefully, will encourage me to get out of the house and away from my computer screen.Recently, I went to a social mixer of about 40 men and women....more
Nancy - great thoughts - I'm just starting, in year two post marriage, to really think of myself ...more