PTSD and Pregnancy Loss

People may not realize that some women will suffer post traumatic stress disorder and/or post partum depression following a pregnancy ...more

There's no time like the first time: Will's take

Reading over Mo's reflections I realize that there are major differences - both good and bad - this time 'round. I am not blase about this IVF cycle, but experiencing a healthy dose of apprehension about getting too excited. For this next IVF, I am cautious, but for the long-term, I know - and definitely have more confidence than Mo - that eventually we will be fortunate to have a child and that child will be a true treasure in our lives. ...more

There's no time like the first time: Mo's perspective

I woke up early this morning and was partially dressed for the gym before I realized that I was supposed to get bloodwork at the RE's office to confirm my ovulation. I had completely forgotten. ...more

If men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, maybe babies are from Pluto?

Welcome. We're glad you're here...and no, we never thought we'd be here either. But since we are, we thought we might as well blog about it. They say life is circular and indeed we are again beginning the process of trying to start a family. This winter will inaugurate our new president Barack Obama and our fifth attempt at pregnancy in a little over a year. ...more

Giving TWO Books Away!

I am hosting a book giveaway for TWO books on my blog from now through November 13, 2008  especially for moms who have lost a baby or child, or for those who want to understand someone going through this and how to reach out to a family enduring the hardest pain ever.  Please visit my blog, Writing Canvas, for more details. Thank you! ...more

In Through the Out Door: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day

The Temple Mount in Jerusalem is one of the holiest spaces in the city. The site is where the Temple once stood before it was destroyed. The largest accessible portion of the retaining wall that enclosed the Temple Mount is the Western Wall. That's probably the space that immediately jumped to mind when I mentioned Jerusalem--that large stone wall where people go to pray. On the southern portion of the Temple Mount, you can see the Hulda Gates. ...more

 I personally have never lost a child, thank god, but I feel for those everywhere who have. ...more

Maybe I'm just a whiner.

Maybe I am just a whiner.   I never thought I was, I thought I was a stoic, powerful woman who could roll with the punches and bounce back as strong as ever.  Now I'm not sure.  I think I've been a whiner all along and just never realized it. ...more

I wish I could give you a hug or a blessing.  Or something that would help.

Whine all ...more

We wanted four - but six would have been acceptable.

We wanted four kids, but if we'd had some random twins it would have been okay.  Ok, so I'm not "infertile" per se.  My body, if I take care of it and get it into optimum shape, is perfectly capable of conceiving other children. I am young - 26 - and could theoretically, if I work on my weight, be in good shape for conception within a year.  The first question is whether those children will in fact be born.  The second question is whether I should, essentially, bear children because I am the only one in the family who can.  ...more

Understanding miscarriages and how to cope

Though everyone experiences pregnancy loss in their own way, for many women, this is a heart breaking experience. Many women are surprised to discover that 1 in 5 pregnancies will miscarry. Often a cause for the miscarriage can’t be determined, which can lead to more confusion and questions. ...more

Acknowledging Fears

I lost a child already. When I was 21, before I met Peter, I miscarried a baby that I hadn’t even known that I wanted until the moment the choice was taken away from me.  My first instinct was to get rid of that baby, that I wasn’t ready, I wasn’t prepared. I spent days planning to make this inconvenience go away.  Then the clarity came that I might never BE ready for a baby, but I had one now and I was going to do my best to be a mother.  I told the father.  I cried when I told my mom.  But I was sure I was making the right decision. ...more