A Safe Haven for Babies and Parents Alike

There is a cemetery on the way to Westley's preschool. It's an old cemetery; the town's first police chief and mayor are both buried there. I recently learned that the grounds include a newer area, called "Baby Haven." It's exactly what you think it is. Itty bitty plots with tiny headstones. As soon as I learned about Baby Haven, I felt compelled to visit....more
I loved this piece. Cemeteries have a lot of stories and I've always been drawn to them. The ...more

The Senseless Death of Savita Halappanavar

In the early hours of Sunday, October 28th, Savita Halappanavar died a death that was, most likely, totally preventable. She died because the hospital where she was a patient denied her a lifesaving procedure, one that she requested, a procedure that she would have likely been granted nearly anywhere else in the western world. ...more
Amazing, a developED country, and this kind of story still exists.   I live in a third-world, ...more

The Miscarriage!

I thought that after I would give birth to my beautiful daughter that this would finally be easy to talk about. But it isnt. I do however have a promise I made to this blog & myself to be honest. I know that someone will feel better after reading this and thats why I do it. ...more

To My Unnamed Child

 Dear Little One, Today or a day very near this one, you would have been two years old. It's hard to imagine that we could have a toddler running about, that we could be trying to potty-train you, and that you would probably try to be helpful with your little sister....more

The Waiting Game Part Two: The Mating Game

 Okay, so now that you've wai...more

Uncomfortable While Pregnant

The most uncomfortable moment I ever had while pregnant, not when I was pregnant, but while a friend was pregnant.In November of 2005 I had a miscarriage and lost a baby. I was still in my first trimester and had not told people I was pregnant yet. At that point in time I had two children who were alive, well and running all over the house. However, the loss of that child, the ceasing to be of that person was a devastating thing. I only told a few people that I lost the child because, not one had known I was pregnant in the first place....more

The Art of Losing a Baby

     I was pregnant, but now I am not. I was going to share our news in the coming weeks – I had so much I wanted to articulate about having a second child, becoming a family of four, and experiencing pregnancy for a second time. For now, this post will have to suffice. The art of losing a baby is journey many have endured and it just happened to be our turn this time. Losing a baby – that phrase makes the occurrence seem so flippant and careless....more

When to tell others the BIG news!

Every woman has a different thoughts and rationale about when she’ll share the news that she’s pregnant....more

Sorry 'Bout Your Loss

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After I had my first miscarriage it seemed like people came out of the woodwork to tell me they too had had a miscarriage.  I didn’t realize first pregnancy miscarriages were so common.  I remember someone even telling me about their 4 or 5 miscarriages and saying to Paul that I didn’t think I could go through that.  The loss of our first baby was so painful even though I was only 10 weeks along.  I felt like my heart was breaking.  And then we had our Emma.  She truly is the light of our lives and makes my heart feel overwhelmed with love for her and I...more