The following is told from the perspective of a nine year old girl:"Mommy why are you putting all that make up on?"The minute the words slipped out of her mouth, she knew it was the wrong question.She’d meant to ask,"Will you stay home and snuggle with me and read me a story?"Instead she voiced something that her 9 year old self had not yet learned triggered her mother's furor.She'd tried so hard so as not to upset Mommy by following the new rules since Daddy left....more
One of the best and worst things about this time of year is the annual cross-country trip from Denver, CO to Charlottesville, VA. It’s the worst time of year because my youngest daughter, Kimberly, is headed back to school after a meager 12 weeks at home. It’s the Best time of year because for three days I have one-on-one time with her, laughing, singing, and talking about the quirks of life, from the mundane to the serious. It brings back memories of her middle school years when she went to a private Montessori school that was an hour commute from our home....more
(Watch the video here.) When you hit your teens you and your mom had a bad time, and you still are. Maybe she's not the mother you always wanted, but she's yours. How do you bury the hatchet and repair your connection? This will also be helpful for moms trying to repair relationships with daughters....more
Passion is an interesting idea. It should be unwavering, full of powerful emotion. It's common to get passionate about children, from giving birth to every milestone in their lives. From the moment we see the heartbeat on the screen, we love them and they become our world. I can think of few things I'm as passionate about as my children....more
She watches my every move, looking for cues. She did this as a toddler and a preschooler. I was curious then. Now she's 22 years old; she just graduated from college and has moved back into the house to search for a job. She watches and picks up on my cues. I can feel it.
Back when she was a little girl I wondered about her cuing from me so often. Now I know it's a trait of many women and girls. Some of us can read the subtle cues in others to a very refined degree. I possess this trait; so does my daughter.
Many mothers tell me, including my own, that I have no idea what I'm talking about because I have no children of my own. I am not married, and I have no idea who it feels to be a married-woman-with-children.
I’m in America for a few days spending some time with my daughter before she returns to school for her last semester of college. While we were in the car yesterday, we were talking and playing tug of war with the radio dial while I was driving. I was trying to focus on what she was saying as well as navigating the car and we went back and forth with the volume control until finally she said, “ I don’t like to sit in silence.”
Part of the reality of being alive and
on this planet with other human beings is that sometimes we argue. It
happens to everyone and the most common reactions are fight, flight, or
freeze. However, none of these actually helps to resolve the argument.
So what can you do instead? Well, here are 4 simple steps you can take
the next time you find yourself smack dab in the middle of an argument:
Simple Step #1 Pause
One of the first questions I asked when my daughter was born was, "Is she brown?" I had been praying for this unknown child's health and color. I wanted her to be a definite, stick-around brown. That way, I figured, there'd be no ambivalence about her place in the race.
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