Peace Sign

I remember the day but not the year (Was it ninety-five maybe?) when my husband brought home a newspaper article for me to read, an interview with a pedophile.            “I drove through neighborhoods in search of Little Tikes cars, bicycles with training wheels, tiny swimsuits hung on porch railings to dry.”            I was pretty sure he was trying to help but instead his words gorged the panic monster that lived close to me, maybe even...more

You Are My Sonshine

This post is dedicated to my sons.  Yes, I also have two daughters, but they will each want their own post, which will have to include photos, so that will be another day.Ten Rules Mother Wants You To Live By:1.  Don't be a dick2.  Only stare at one set of boobs at a time.  Dude come on, they're JUST boobs.3.  Be nice...more

Miracle Believing Mommy

Luke 1:37 'For with God nothing will be impossible.' Mary was approached by the angel Gabriel with the message that this virgin woman was about to conceive the Son of God. Now stop and imagine yourself in Mary's shoes. She, like any woman would do in this situation, asked 'How?!'. Gabriel reassured her, 'For with God nothing will be impossible.' Wow. NOTHING?? Really God?? YES! Isn't that exciting?!...more

The Real Danger in America: Hospital Birth

As tempting as it is to make emotional arguments against the safety of home birth, as Feministe did recently, it's not home births that are driving America's high rates of maternal and fetal death. It's hospital birth. America has among the highest maternal mortality rate of any industrialized country. ...more
You know, its articles like these that made me feel so inadequate and terrified of the entire ...more

Have I Become Racist Against White People?

I recently got into a little disagreement on Facebook, through a comment thread on an acquaintance’s page. I left a comment saying that people who fly confederate flags are generally not the kind of people who a black man (or woman) might want to be caught in a dark alley with. My point was not so much that flying a confederate flag makes you a racist, but in my experience, they usually are.Then I got called a racist. By a white guy from Mississippi. Which, as another commenter on the thread pointed out, was kind of humorous, seeing as I am also white....more
Great post, thanks for your candor, it is a difficult subject. I recently worked with my best ...more

7 Reasons Why I Love My Book Club

 One glorious Wednesday night a month, I get to go to Book Club. To say that I look forward to this night is a gross understatement. We rotate through houses, the 10 of us each anxiously awaiting the month that's ours. We talk and laugh and sometimes cry. Oh, and we discuss a book we've all collectively read...most of the time; that is, most of the time we talk about it and most of the time we've all read it....more
 @alienbody DO IT! Grab 6-8 folks who like to read and go for it! (Works best if the 6-8 don't ...more

What If?

How can this be commonplace? The giving away of my child to other countries, other cultures, another mother even, on the other side of the world.             It seems to get easier each time but really, it just takes me longer to get to what if. What if What if this is the last time I see you? Ever.             Why do you never glance back after you pass through the metal detector? From that far away you can’t see how damp my face is or hear my sobs....more

My Son And Me

My son has a job as a lifeguard this summer, and today I drive him to work. Though he now has his driver’s license, he does not yet have his own car and so for the time being, we must share mine and he is being a good sport about it. I drive slowly; neither of us has an agenda and there are no external distractions. We are simply mother and son, each fully present, as we so often were when he was young; before I became preoccupied with the passing of time and midlife reinvention, and before he became preoccupied with the demands of growing up and teenage activities....more
Thanks so much Robin.  I love your post on teens and bloggingmore

Taking Away Mom's Keys: How Old Is Too Old to Drive?

For the interrogation, a lady with a clipboard asked politely if I would "step away" from the window so she could interrogate my mother about what happened when she drove her car into the wall of the carpet store. When she mistook the gas for the brake pedal. I sat on a bench -- just within earshot of my mother referring repeatedly to the brake as the "clutch." What she learned to drive on what, a good, 75 years ago? I wanted to pinch her. I could swear, above all the raucous of sorry waiting souls in this enormous DMV room, I could actually hear the mad scribbling of Clipboard Lady. "So you weren't driving a standard then." "What standard? I was driving my car." ...more
I had to take away my mother's keys when I discovered she had had her next door neighbor jump ...more

You Are a Mother.

Today, we celebrate Mothers.It doesn’t matter whether you work full time, stay home, work from home, foster, or are an empty nester.It doesn’t matter if you have one child or twenty.It doesn’t matter if you are infertile and will never have a child....more