How to Let Go of Painful Memories and Feel Less Pain

Past relationships, choices and injustices can settle on every aspect of life like a wave of volcanic ash, however, this trick has always helped me uproot painful moments and I hope it will help guide you towards a brighter, more promising future: In the past, when someone wronged me, I would feel an intense urge to seek revenge. But, ultimately  I decided that's not the person I want to be....more

Overcoming Obstacles – Gaining The Inside Advantage

 Sometimes when you face obstacles or things thrown in front of you on your path, what do you do? I guess it depends on the specific situation, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that what’s there is meant to block you—it does NOT mean you can’t move forward in a positive direction, in spite of whatever seems to be holding you back.You could find a way to go around, over, or through the immediate “wall” because even when you feel stuck in one place, you are moving forward in time, even if you are not making the progress you would like....more

Living Fearlessly

When I was a second grade teacher, I taught a unit on bravery. There I was in a room of seven year olds having deep conversations on what being brave meant. Every year every class came to the same conclusion; being brave did not mean that we did not get scared, it meant that even though we got scared, we still acted. It was the fact that we could act when were scared that made us brave.  Ahhh… The wisdom of seven year olds. ...more


My ears stinging and my fingers growing thick from the cold, I tugged and twisted and yanked and shimmied, but the chair was stuck as stuck could be in my minivan.  It had gone in there easily enough, sliding right past the back of my seat and over Juliet’s car seat until it rested in a cockeyed, yet stable fashion in the aisle of the vehicle....more

Hurricane Sandy and Childhood Cancer

My daughter, who is 7 years old, has been battling childhood leukemia since 2010. As I've watched the coverage of Hurricane Sandy and it's aftemath, I am compelled to compare a hurricane with childhood cancer....more


A rough night last night.  I was up and in tears until past 3:30 a.m.  Why?  I'm not entirely sure there's only one reason.Part of it was still fear.  The fear of the unknown, of what's going to happen, if I'm going to be okay.  The fear that I might always be unloved, that I may be alone forever. Part of it was crying for what was lost.  I miss my home, my friends, and my family.  I miss the actual belonging to someone.  I miss the human touch....more

How To Keep Fear From Stopping You So That You Can Keep Moving Forward

What is stopping you RIGHT NOW from moving forward on the tasks you need to do.  We can, at times, sit in indecision on what direction we should take.  We may question ourselves if it is even worth moving forward because we're feeling that we’re in way over our head....more

Bringing Beloved Creations to the Light of Day

I have been quietly building a pet project over the past year. I’ve worked and worked and worked, and I’ve done about all I can to get it ready. It’s time to show it the world.Yikes.Suddenly, I’m no longer so sure of this thing I’ve built. Is this a stupid idea? Is the execution awful? Who am I to throw this out at the world? Am I qualified at all? Who is going to pay attention to little old me?...more

Jumping off the treadmill

No, this is not a fitness post gone wrong, by telling you to dive off your treadmill. That would probably be dangerous, and hurt. Jumping off the treadmill is a term we have used for the last couple of years. Basically it means that life can be like running on a treadmill, you run like hell and never get anywhere.  You get the job to pay the bills, to work some more, and pay more bills. It never ends, unless you get off the treadmill, look around, and reevaluate. ...more