It's True!

It is true, it is REALLY true.It is not an allegory.It is not for a few select saints.Life in Christ is for me.I was created for this, designed for this life.Twenty-five years ago, my husband discovered a book at a Trappist monastery that changed our lives, called “Guideline to Mystical Prayer” by a British Carmelite nun, Ruth Burrows....more

Random, Off-the-cuff, Change of Life Stuff

Where do you begin when you're at the end of something? It would help a great deal to know exactly what it is you're at the end of before answering that! So where is it I'm at exactly?...more

The Final Tie

It seems forever ago that my now ex husband came home to tell me he didn’t trust me anymore based on a few off handed comments made to my sister.  He waited two months to tell me, treated me terribly, and ruined a long planned trip to New Orleans.  So much for communication....more
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I have to catch the 2255! I shriek above the cacophany that is London traffic on a Wednesday night not long before Christmas.We are legging it, fast as we can, from Covent Garden to St Pancras to catch the hi-speed home.  A fair old walk at the best of times....more

New worlds

I keep starting this post and then deleting what I've written. I've been wanting to muse about love, and the lovely youngish man. But I'm tired and instead I find myself simply marvelling at what it is - I mean, what's the process? - that the human heart goes through to recover from injury and fully engage once again.  It's incredible, this organ of ours.  Really, I'm speechless with admiration at the human facility to suffer, recover and carry on. ...more

You Are So Beautiful

  My blog is named My Ex-Life because I have been given new life and the former one is gone. The ex-life left me feeling shame and guilt, like a failure most the time. That's the one that left me empty because I could never find what it was that I needed to fill me. Well that life I've left behind and have moved on to BASK IN MY BEAUTY. It feels good here....more

It's time to reframe that fairytale thinking.

Starting as young girls we watch and read the lovely fairytales where the beautiful princess finally meets her prince charming and they get married and live happily ever after.  Don’t you ever wish, as adults, we could see the “where are they now” updates?   Is the princess still as thin and lovely as she once was?  Did prince charming continue to slay dragons or did he hang up his lance and decide the lounger and remote were more interesting?  Who’s to say how that happily ever after works out and sometimes it just doesn’t.  It’s time to reframe my thinking.&n...more

Balance & Proportion

To continue on the topic of designing a new life, today I was thinking of balance and proportion in my bedroom and realized that this, too, is important in structuring a new life.  Finding balance can be difficult depending on the room shape and size, the furniture in it and what is on the ceiling.  So it is in starting over.  It can be difficult to find a balance when you have no partner to help you do all the tasks needed to be done in one day.  Most often, I remove everything from a space and only move in the big things first.  Now, I'm doing that with my...more

Ex-plore in the New Year

Wondering what to do in the New Year? Most of us want to try something different and we have high expectations of the changes we'll make....more

3 Addresses and the Year That Was