I Forgot My Son's First Words and Lied About It

First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined. Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess. I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself. ...more
RobertGraves Thanks Robert...nope never forgot him at the store but sometimes I would've liked ...more

A to Z Challenge: On Offspring

We get a lot from our parents.  Not just our genetic makeup, but our values and traditions.  Our self-esteem and our value.  They help us gain confidence and set the example for how we should live our lives.  I've been thinking about my mother a lot recently.  Especially since I started counting calories and working harder on living a healthier life style....more

The One the Teacher Warns the Substitute About: I'm That Kid's Mom

By Misty Van Staaveren Back when I was teaching Kindergarten, about ten years ago, I had this adorable little boy in my class. He was very young emotionally and seemed to lack any control over himself. He couldn't keep quiet. He couldn't raise his hand before blurting something out. He couldn't sit in his seat. Instead he'd be mindlessly dancing around the chair while he worked. Every day, he would "move his card" because he had problems with behavior in class. None of it was terrible behavior, but it was disruptive nonetheless. ...more
Wow, this sounds just like our son.  He's 7, and was enrolled at our local Montessori school ...more

One and Done: We're a Family of Three

"When are you having more kids?" It's a question I hear quite frequently. I don't dislike the question; I am not offended by the question. I don't hold anything against those who ask it. Ultimately, I am just surprised by how many people assume we will have more children. ...more
Like you, we struggled to be able to produce the one child, just before I turned 40. Once we ...more

What If This Is Our Last Baby? Parenting an Only Child After Loss

I didn't expect this to knock me over like they did, the words of this one mama. I started to read her article about why she has decided to be a mother of only one child because I was curious. And then my eyes met this: “I’ve had my daughter . I am so grateful to have my one beautiful daughter. I don’t wish to have any more.” And those words, they were met with tears. Are met with tears now, as I write this....more
What beautiful writing. Thank you for sharing your open and honest heart. I too have lost a ...more

Rebuttal to 8 Things Never to Say to a Mom of an Only Child

When I first read "8 Things Never to Say to a Mom of an Only Child", at the Huffington Post, I thought, "Wow. She sounds angry." To the author's credit, the post stayed with me, but probably not in the way it should have. It ticked me off. ...more

One and Done?

It's common when we ask our friends, family, and ourselves about potential parenthood to use the plural. "Do you want kids?" "Do I want children?" But what about a child, a kid? Just one? Wes and I always imagined having two kids, but then we actually had a child. I think it was Tina Fey who talked about how the circle of her family didn't feel complete until she had her second child. Others have said they knew immediately upon their first child's birth there would be one or two more. That didn't happen here and Wes felt it too....more

Only Doesn't Mean Lonely

L.E. will be an only child.I’m not apologetic about that.I want her to have my undivided attention.I want to be able to provide her with the best life I can afford to give her.I don’t want another baby. I get a lot of flack for this. I know a lot of couples with kids L.E.’s age or even younger who are already pregnant with their next child. I think they are insane.  ...more

"Can I Have it All?" Is the Wrong Question

When I speak to groups of young women and men, more and more frequently the question I get isn’t “Can I have it all?” it’s “Should I have kids at all?” ...more

"The War on Only Children"

Originally Posted on www.BeezusKiddo.com Mary Elizabeth Williams published a thought provoking piece last week on Salon.com entitled "The War on Only Children."  Her title overstates the point of the piece--it's not genuinely about aggression toward only children.  It's about people making assumptions about other people and saying obnoxious thing...more