In Praise Of The Only Child

I didn't want my time with my parents divided either, not by anyone…. Only children are awesome.You know why? Because they are mature, self-sufficient, assertive, and independent. They're also witty, sassy and opinionated.I know because I am one myself, but also because my toddler isn't going to have any siblings....more

What I've Learned From My Brother's Suicide

Being the oldest child gave me a few privileges growing up. One that I remember clearly was being able to stay up later than my brother. It was probably only 15 to 20 minutes later, but being eight or nine years old at the time, it seemed like I was up until midnight! ...more
LineJacque Please don't hesitate to reach out directly to me.  Pain doesn't go away, life goes ...more

My Husband Is A Great Big Brother To Our Son

My husband knocks on the car window, and our son turns as he’s walking toward the school. My husband waves; my son waves back, then turns toward the school again. He takes a couple steps, and my husband knocks on the car window again. Our son stops, turns to look at his dad waving again and shakes his head. Then a smile spreads across his face and he wriggles his fingers at him and turns back toward the school. “What was that for?” I ask. If our son was six, and on his way into elementary school, it would have been cute, but he’s fourteen and in middle school. ...more
That's so sweet!   Preparing kids for life's embarrassments must be a guy thing.  My husband ...more

How many children lead to happiness?

People love to ask me if I'll have another child. (I try to look at that as a compliment to my awesome parenting skills and not as an invasion of privacy.) My answer is very diplomatic and a little enigmatic, in that we would love a second child if one came along, but we are not currently planning to have one....more
I'm the oldest of 6. I have 4 children of my own. Me (and my mom) have had periods of happiness ...more

To second or not to second?

Dear BlogHer readers,This is more to inititate a discussion than a blog post. I am a working mom with a demanding career with an amazing toddler, who is everything I ever wanted in a child. I feel I am done, I am happy with my one, this is the less crazy and right balance, but my husband wants another one....more
I had one child as well.  She was my world.  I was an only child myself, and never wanted more ...more

I Forgot My Son's First Words and Lied About It

First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined. Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess. I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself. ...more
RobertGraves Thanks Robert...nope never forgot him at the store but sometimes I would've liked ...more

A to Z Challenge: On Offspring

We get a lot from our parents.  Not just our genetic makeup, but our values and traditions.  Our self-esteem and our value.  They help us gain confidence and set the example for how we should live our lives.  I've been thinking about my mother a lot recently.  Especially since I started counting calories and working harder on living a healthier life style....more

The One the Teacher Warns the Substitute About: I'm That Kid's Mom

By Misty Van Staaveren Back when I was teaching Kindergarten, about ten years ago, I had this adorable little boy in my class. He was very young emotionally and seemed to lack any control over himself. He couldn't keep quiet. He couldn't raise his hand before blurting something out. He couldn't sit in his seat. Instead he'd be mindlessly dancing around the chair while he worked. Every day, he would "move his card" because he had problems with behavior in class. None of it was terrible behavior, but it was disruptive nonetheless. ...more
The idea of kids losing recess for acting out is troubling to me. It seems like that would feed ...more

One and Done: We're a Family of Three

"When are you having more kids?" It's a question I hear quite frequently. I don't dislike the question; I am not offended by the question. I don't hold anything against those who ask it. Ultimately, I am just surprised by how many people assume we will have more children. ...more
Like you, we struggled to be able to produce the one child, just before I turned 40. Once we ...more

What If This Is Our Last Baby? Parenting an Only Child After Loss

I didn't expect this to knock me over like they did, the words of this one mama. I started to read her article about why she has decided to be a mother of only one child because I was curious. And then my eyes met this: “I’ve had my daughter . I am so grateful to have my one beautiful daughter. I don’t wish to have any more.” And those words, they were met with tears. Are met with tears now, as I write this....more
What beautiful writing. Thank you for sharing your open and honest heart. I too have lost a ...more