Only Doesn't Mean Lonely

L.E. will be an only child.I’m not apologetic about that.I want her to have my undivided attention.I want to be able to provide her with the best life I can afford to give her.I don’t want another baby. I get a lot of flack for this. I know a lot of couples with kids L.E.’s age or even younger who are already pregnant with their next child. I think they are insane.  ...more

"Can I Have it All?" Is the Wrong Question

When I speak to groups of young women and men, more and more frequently the question I get isn’t “Can I have it all?” it’s “Should I have kids at all?” ...more

"The War on Only Children"

Originally Posted on Mary Elizabeth Williams published a thought provoking piece last week on entitled "The War on Only Children."  Her title overstates the point of the piece--it's not genuinely about aggression toward only children.  It's about people making assumptions about other people and saying obnoxious thing...more

Being Just Enough Me

Many people used to tell me, how lucky I was to be an only child.  They had this perception that my parents would undoubtedly spoil me to death, that I would get whatever I wanted, and that I would never have to share what I own with any siblings. They couldn't be more wrong. Being the only child meant that all of my parents' expectations lay on my shoulder.  Not wanting me to repeat...more

The Stuff You Don't Know When You Ask: "So When Are You Having Another Baby?"

I knew it would happen when we got married. People would begin asking about and expecting us to want/have/produce another child. Over at my personal blog, I've made it pretty clear that parenthood suits me. I love my daughter and enjoy watching her learn and grow more than I ever imagined. That doesn't necessarily mean that I'm dying to have another baby any time soon, or possibly even ever....more

The Husband I are experiencing secondary infertility and are undergoing treatment for it now. I ...more

Under Pressure

For a while this past spring, I decided I was okay with the idea of having another baby. I wanted Emerson to have a sibling, a playmate, and to learn how to share and work together and have patience with a little brother or sister. And then that feeling passed. ...more

About five years ago, before we were married, my husband and I agreed we only wanted one child. ...more

One and Done

My husband and I want only one child. You may not know this (especially if you've been able to survive the baby epidemic up until now) but having or wanting only one child makes you a bit of an anomaly. In fact, sometimes I feel as if people treat me like I'm contagious, as if my willingness to allow my uterus to shrivel up will most certainly send theirs into early retirement. I assure you I'm not that powerful.  For the most part....more

It's My Family And I'll Stop If I Want To

How do I say this without coming across as a shrill, judgmental wack-a-do who should learn to rise above the fray and just move on up? I am not sure there is even a way so I will simply proceed and be done with it.   Last week and last month and last year I was lucky enough to be graced with the concerns of a few other parents who felt that they truly needed to express their opinions on my decision and my husband’s decision to only have one child.  ...more

Holiday! Vacationing With an Only Child

We're standing in line to check bags at the San Diego airport, surrounded by large families hoisting enough luggage to sustain the Northwest Passage. And once again, I am thankful we are a party of three. ...more

Hello! ( Apologies in advance, I'm not a native english speaker, so be patient while reading) ...more

My One and Only