Pathologizery

Anyone with a special needs kid of any kind wrestles with how much to pathologize, how much to accept, how much to change, how much to except and hope.  This is just one perspective from one complicated diagnosis but maybe, hopefully, it can start us all thinking and talking more openly about what our options really are - medical and non-medical.  http://planbust.blogspot.com/2014/09/pathologizery.html...more

The Yardstick of your Life

Life is fast. It happens so quickly that there are weeks and months when you look back which are just a blur. How could I possibly have children in their thirties. Wasn’t it only yesterday that I was their age?...more

I Had a Plan-I Wanted a Girl

I Had a Plan-I Wanted a GirlPOSTED ON SEPTEMBER 10, 2014...more

*THAT* First Day of School Blog Post

Every year it is the same…”back to school” ads in the paper and on TV, every store window looks like the perfect dorm room, there are fewer school-age children at our favorite daytime play places and, last but not least, my Facebook newsfeed is filled with “first day of (fill-in-the-blank) grade” pictures of happy, new clothes-clad, chalkboard-holding school children....more

Your Kids Get Along So Well

A few thoughts about how our expectations for ourselves differ from our expectations for our kids.  And how that may not be totally the right or rational thing...  What do you think?http://planbust.blogspot.com/2014/09/your-kids-get-along-so-well.html...more

Happy Grandparents Day

Grandma, Grandpa, Nana, Papa, Oma, Opa, MeMe or PopPop, whatever you call them they are your grandparents, and they are special! Special in a way that no one else on earth will ever be. "Grandparents are there to help the child get into mischief they haven't thought of yet." - Gene Perret ...more

Dear Women: Sometimes We Can't Have It All. And That's Ok.

Boy, that "Enjoli" perfume commercial from the '80's really did a number on us, conjuring up this image of a nonstop, 24-hour superwoman who does it all, bringing home the bacon included, which served greatly in cementing the idea of "having it all" in our psyche that many of us still try to live up to today.  (It's your fault, Enjoli lady.  Video Cred:  YouTube.com)But we can't.  ...more

Make Me Wanna Hover - Why My Black Kids Need A Helicopter Mom

I have been called  an HM, a "Helicopter Mom", more times than I can count.  ...more

"Me Bad Parent:" The Do's and Don't of Parenting

I was online searching for images of parenting, and I came across these old-school photos of baby care "do's" and "don'ts." I think they are super-helpful and should definitely be left on bedside tables in maternity wards for new moms and dads who are clueless. I mean, I almost washed my baby with a power hose, but if I had seen this, I would have known better:...more

Crushing my Mom Doubt with Some Tea and Buddha

I’ve always felt pretty confident about the decisions I make as a parent — until recently as I try to navigate the hormones of two nearly ten-year old girls. In order to get through these trying days I’ve used a combination of the Serenity prayer, girl friend support, parenting books and Kendall Jackson chardonnay.But deeper than my exhaustion from the fights, exasperated comments, and eye-rolls, is the constant shadow of self-doubt that is creeping into my world on a regular basis....more