It’s unpopular but fair to say parenting today has become a helicoptering debacle. With tidal wave force, we’ve ushered in a new child-rearing style that probably isn’t doing our kids any favors in the life prep department. We’ve become nearly obsessed with our children’s diets, friends, grades, sports, and activities. And any category in which they are falling short is quickly redirected or remedied by us: their loving, devoted parents.
As I sat in the departure area waiting to board a recent flight, a middle-aged woman sitting across from me took a call on her cell phone. It was hard not to overhear the almost immediate anguish in her voice. I garnered pretty quickly that she was getting news of a death.
Her face turned gray and her voice shook as she tried to console the bereaved person on the other end of the phone. "Oh honey, you can't blame yourself," and, "I'm so sorry. This is such sad, sad news."
And then, "Well, you never know, he might reschedule. Maybe he just got busy."...more
Ask anyone and they will surely have a tip or two for new and expecting parents. A lot of the new parent advice is great and comes from a place of experience and well meaning. But there are a lot of pearls of wisdom that you hear a lot and sound really nice but in my experience, a lot of these “golden” rules of new parenting are not realistic.So what is the reality of parenthood versus the classic new parent advice? Classic Advice: Sleep as much as you can before baby comes...more
I hear this a lot from parents. They say they’ve tried everything and nothing works. That their kids are more strong willed, feisty, active, autistic, ADHD, defiant or just more difficult than other kids.Well, I’ve worked with all those kids and haven’t met one yet who doesn’t react positively to discipline. Sometimes more creativity and thought is put into challenges like autism, as our expectations have to be realistic to their abilities. But it’s all good....more
My mother and I are very close, and she is undoubtedly my biggest fan, but it takes more than just one parent to raise a child, and this is what I wish I would have gotten from the other.*Click image to read full article*...more
Sometimes you want to scream and pull out all of your hair–your heart racing, while the blood boils down to your soul. That's when you have to stop... Take ten deep breaths and remember who your are.Click logo to read full article on HubPages!...more
Lately, my children have been testing me. Well technically, "testing me" is a constant state of being for them, but lately they just seem to be doing it on steroids. And that means it's time to review some discipline tactics I've long had in my arsenal but forgot were there. I was looking over some materials from a "Love and Logic" course my husband and I took when my oldest was a toddler....more