How an App and Peer Pressure Won Me the Mother of the Year Award

When The Kid was little, I was petrified that something would happen to my little girl, and she wouldn't know what to do. I wanted to equip her for anything... bad touches, peer pressure, bullying, drugs, kidnapping. We played with dolls and acted things out, role-played scenes, and had mini-conversations. If it was suggested in a parenting magazine, I did it. Not obsessively, because I didn't want her to grow up to be a bigger freak than her DNA already assured she would be, but just enough that she would *hopefully* feel in control if something were to come up. ...more
@timessquared   The Kid is a mess!    I think she listens WAAAAAY more than we think.more

Ruling the Teen-dom

You remember the saying “when you have a child, it is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around your body”? I think it’s really true when you’re the parent of a teen or tween except it’s more like your heart is being stomped....more



Being the Cool Parent

On a recent afternoon, my daughter DQ and I were on our way back from dropping my son, Taz, off at his friend’s house. I had assumed that DQ was going to spend the rest of the day bored since one of her best friends was grounded that day, so I racked my brain for something we could do together.“What do you want to do?” I asked her, and was surprised when she said she already had plans....more

As You Grow, So Do My Wishes for You

Today is my oldest daughter's 12th birthday. Every day I pray for my children. For her birthday, I wanted to reprint the wishes I posted last year... with a few additions....more
 @victorias_view  Thanks. I am praying these wishes and many more come true. ;-)more

I'm in Motherlode!

Hi! I'm over at Motherlode in the NYTimes online today.

Teenagers? I just want to survive two, twelve year-olds.

I hear the teenage years are much easier with boys.  I just want to survive two, twelve year-olds.  ...more
@tennismama I am hoping it's a good sign and they aren't just messing with me.  I cannot even ...more

Story Slam; The Unspeakable Revisited


Parenting: So You Want to Know About Flavored Condoms?

As we walked past classroom doors where dedicated teachers still labored over tomorrow's lesson plan and yesterday's papers, my son asked me, his voice loud and clear as a bell: "Is it true that there are FLAVORED condoms?" One thing a future parent does not particularly imagine for oneself when fantasizing about their future lifetime with their growing child is their role as a sex educator. If we did imagine this, it would really put a damper on the baby-making, I think. ...more
 @CGoforth So true. Less education just doesn't mean less teen sex. Ever. And yet we are still ...more

The Vassar 76: On Rejection and Other Life Lessons

That kind of switch and bait probably didn’t occur to most of the 76 students who were recently accepted and then summarily rejected by Vassar College. A computer glitch, just the kind my own son worried about, sent 122 early decision candidates letters of acceptance. For 46 of them, the news was accurate; they had been accepted. For the remaining students, the computer system, in fact the entire system, had failed....more
Yup, Dawn, can't argue with you. I'm hoping to be able to send my daughters to college ...more