The last 2,3 weeks have been difficult. Do you have expectations for your partner’s career when you get married?
I did. And just recently, after close to 10 years of marriage, I realized that his goal was different from what I assumed it was. To be honest, I was upset, disappointed. I questioned if what I’ve done had affected his manner; if I had worked harder would he have worked harder; am I as mediocre professionally as he is, is that why we are together?
But then, couple of things occurred to me:
My man is a critic. Don't get me wrong, he is a decent and hardworking man. I sometimes count the number of criticisms in an hour. They are little things, mostly. Recently, I find myself just letting these comments go. Why respond to these jabs? I know who I am, and with recent 51 year-old maturity, I don't want to waste precious time trying to have a conversation with a natural critic. Why not? Because, the natural critic rarely criticizes in order to help. These negative comments are more about them....more
by Lianne Castelino www.whereparentstalk.com
Had lunch with two old friends yesterday. Two of us started our careers together, the third was our mentor. Neither has changed in over 20 years! Definitely a treasured friendship!
I realized in the over one hundred posts from this past year, I have not written once about marriage or committed relationships. I've written about simple living issues such as organizing, eco-friendly items, emotional health, community events, and even our dog, but not one post has been about the very important relationship we have with our spouses or partners....more