How The Expectation Of Trying To “Have It All” Is Hurting Us All

I am almost 40 years old, and with my age comes at least a little wisdom; wisdom I wish I had possessed many years before this point in order to save myself much needless heartache....more

Ready, Set, Grow

There's something about new beginnings that are so exciting and full of promise. I am a planner to the core, and every time I am about to start something new, I have big plans for doing everything the right way the first time around. However unrealistic this idea may be, I always believe that if I start out with enough planning, knowledge, and good intentions, I can get things right on the first try.Maybe you're like me and you like to plan everything out, or maybe you're more laid back and willing to go with the flow. But in these days of social media sites like Pinterest and the wealth of knowledge we have available to us on the internet, as well as the expectations we have set for ourselves, the pressure to excel in all of our roles can be overwhelming. As girls, especially, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be good employees, good friends, good wives, good homemakers, good mothers, and the list continues ad infinitum. Between tutorials on eye makeup and instructions on how to do a perfect grouping of pictures and ampersands in your hallways, I end up feeling like a failure when the dinner is overcooked and my hair won't do anything except the wrong thing....more


It’s another glorious morning.  The sun is shining bright.  The petunias are in their full bloom – the blues, purples and lilacs waving in the sunlight.  Not wanting to be over-shadowed, the roses are strutting their stuff....more


 I’m having a pretty good day today. It’s funny to me how small the difference can be between a good day and a not so good day. Sometimes I just wake up feeling mostly happy and that just hangs on. I’m a touch frustrated, though, because I don’t really know what to write. Some days I can write for hours. Other days I spend hours trying to write....more

When Too Much Self-Help Can Lead To Self-Destruction

I am a self-help junkie, but lately, I am starting to realize this is not necessarily a good thing. See, I am also a perfectionist. Well, a self-proclaimed recovering perfectionist. I struggle daily with perfection and letting go of it.per·fec·tion noun 1. the state or quality of being or becoming perfect. 2. the highest degree of proficiency, skill, or excellence, as in some art. 3. a perfect embodiment or example of something....more

Why American Women Hate Their Faces and What They Could Learn From the Brits

One cannot watch the Oscars -- or any grand Hollywood event -- and not be swept up in the fashion, the pageantry, the suspense, the... cringe-worthy sport of seeing just which aging actress has ruined her face.Seriously, I sit and watch these things and wonder out loud: "Why do American women hate their faces so much?" Because they must, right? They would have to be filled with such loathing to make the inexplicable decision to take what we typically call our "calling cards" -- our faces -- and mutilate them to the degree so many do....more


BlogHer – NaBloPoMoTuesday, March 4, 2013 How is your writing voice like you? How does your writing voice differ from you?~~~~~~~~My writing voice is mostly simple; like me, yet, when I let ‘self’ go, and the writing take over, it flows smoothly. I can write for hours as the emotions, feelings, and thoughts just keep flowing.Unlike me, my writing voice is not concerned with perfection; the words just flow.Debra Mauldin, Blogger, Writer, and Certified Aromatherapist...more

Putting on the pressure

Inspired by NaBloPoMo writing prompt for Monday, January 27, 2014: What puts more pressure on you: time constraints or achieving perfection? Those who know me well probably won't be too surprised to read this, but I'd have to say that while both time constraints and achieving perfection are pressure-causing situations, the quest for perfection tends to be a bit more of an issue for me. ...more

Perfection is Bogus

Honestly, the idea of perfection is bogus. If I thought I was the perfect anything I would stop learning, perfecting, and evolving in my roles at home and at work. I can strive to be the best in all that I do but I will never truly be perfect. There is always something new to master. I would also imagine that perfection is boring, static. You are at the top so there is no where else to go.  ...more