Loving Myself, Not Perfecting Myself

I have struggled with loving myself for as long as I can remember.As a teenager, I longed to be taller and curvier, prettier and more athletic.  When I finally hit a growth spurt towards the end of high school, I gained male attention and, in turn, a small boost in self confidence....more

A Letter to my Children

When you couple being a mom with being a perfectionist, the outcome is often a genuine case of mom guilt.  At least that's true for me.  I put a lot of pressure on myself to do things the "right way" and yet, I scarcely know what that is.  The parenting world is crammed with conflicting information; so I gather up as much as I can, filter, synthesize, and try to come up with something that looks like a strategy.  I make all of these goals, and inevitably, I fail.  Often....more

Dealing with Difficult People: The Perfectionist


You’re Doing it Wrong: Doing it all because “you do it better”

As a relatively new cohabiter - my boyfriend and I moved in together late last year - I have vivid memories of those first few weeks, figuring out who does what and when and how. I’m a pretty tightly wound person, to say the least, and boy did I have ideas about what needs to be done and where things should go and why-is-that-so-dirty-did-you-fix-that-yet? ...more
M's first reaction: "I have one question...What is a baseboard?"more

Perfectionism, Laundry and Parenting

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Mom Confidence: Overcoming Perfectionism

During So You Think You Can Dance auditions, a 30-something mother of two young kids was asked why she was finally trying out for the show. She told the judges she has “mom confidence” now. She didn’t make it through to the Top 20, but her answer stuck with me because I get it....more
Nope. Screw it.more

Hi. I'm a Recovering Perfectionist.

Since it's Throwback Thursday in Facebookland and this May 2013 post fit tonight's topic perfectly: Does blogging bring out your best or worst self? I'm going to do a blog rewind and it's new to you, lol!...more
I really loved this post. I mentioned it in my blog ...more

Tips for taming test anxiety (because even gifted kids get anxious)

Even gifted kids get anxious. Contrary to popular belief, giftedness does not necessarily endow children with the confidence to sail through exams without a worry. Many gifted children, adolescents and college students suffer from disabling test anxiety that affects performance, achievement and self-esteem. Test anxiety pops up at the most inopportune times, and can be completely unexpected, an occasional nuisance, or a chronic obstacle....more

Gifted children and the overachievement fallacy

"All it takes to be gifted is hard work. Those gifted kids are such high achievers; that’s why they do so well in school. Their parents push them; that’s how they’ve gotten so far." Comments like these are pervasive, and overheard in schools, neighborhoods, and online discussions....more