None of the baby books I read really addressed what happens after a baby is born. I mean, unless it was about what to expect from the baby. I found it to be an overlooked subject that could have helped me in confusion about first-time motherhood.I remember all the stories of how the pain goes fades away to exceeding joy at your new bundle of joy. Yes, I wanted to hold her, but I don't know that I felt exceeding joy. Terror and fear is more like it....more
So I was hanging out the other day with a friend who has a newborn. A freaking gorgeous newborn boy, to be exact.
He is her first baby. She has recently become a mother.
You know, when we hear those words we hear them like it’s no big deal -- “become a mother,” like you might “become a doctor” or “become a pet owner.” As if it’s just this thing that happens, without anything else happening -- it’s just this exciting addition to one’s life. You add this new thing and go about your business.
Like a new-home owner, or a resident of a new town....more
I’ve had baby on the brain since writing my latest book, The Baby Symphony. And with baby on the brain, I was thinking of the comedy of errors that came with all of my post-partum hormones. I’m not talking about Post-Partum Depression. That is serious, and it is a whole different thing. I’m talking about the after-baby rush of hormones that gives birth to insane emotions that make you do things that will have you looking back years later and nodding your head at yourself....more
Oh, the commitments to myself. ‘Boy, this time I’m going to stay on top of things. I’m going to do plenty of exercise. Eat healthy. Lots of rest.’ You see, pregnancy #2 was full of rich, dairy cravings, and with my first child just turning one, our walks were just about as fast as a snail’s pace at that time. Not super-fat-blasting, if you know what I mean....more
The hair on the back of my neck bristles when I hear this comment,
one I’ve heard countless times, “Oh, you probably stay in shape chasing
after those four boys!” or “You’re so busy with your kids you don’t
have time to eat, no wonder you’ve lost weight!”
My wife and our newborn son have been home and resting comfortably for about a week now. In contrast to our experience with Frankie, this one has been incredible and everyone is enjoying being together.
So it's that time for me. The time when my maternity leave is over, sigh. A whole year gone. I have the overwhelming feeling that it just wasn't enough time. And now I sympathize with those in this world who don't have the priviledge of having a paid leave, or even this long of a paid leave. I am not the type who would have taken jumping back into work easily.
I am going to apologize in advance for the length of this post. There is really no way to describe how horrible it is to think that you might die after just having a new baby. I am hoping that maybe someone in the same situation will do a Google search for some of the symptoms listed here and get to the hospital right away.
Last Thursday morning, my daughter Katie was distressed to find that I was not in the house. Later she said, “I thought somebody stoled you. Because I missed you.”