Deep, Eternal Beauty: Having Kids Didn't Ruin Your Body

At Macy's the other day, I noticed two women looking at dresses together. One of them held up a cute little number, while the other eyed it up and down, sighed, and said, "Yeah, there's no way I could wear that now. Having kids totally ruined my body." Moms say things like this all the time -- "Pregnancy/childbirth/breastfeeding ruined my body." And I get it. But at the same time it makes me sad that so many women lament the softer breasts, squishier tummies, and streaky stretch marks that frequently accompany childbearing. ...more
Every mother who is worried about her post pregnancy body and may have lost her self esteem ...more

Letting Go of the "Mom-Shell" and Accepting My New Body

Every now and then I come across an article and say, “Sister, you are speaking my language.” One of these stories came out a few days ago. Before I get to it, here’s a little background. I once had a Twitter message from some guy I didn’t know that said. “Lisa are you pregnant? If not, diet, diet, diet.” I wasn’t pregnant. But I had given birth to my second child about six months earlier. Yes, that’s a real tweet. Yes, I thought as I stared at the portly man’s Twitter photo, “What the !(@?” And yes it bugged the heck out of me....more
Live and let live.more

Let's Talk Bras (or lack there of)

I have a confession. ...more

My Baby Stole My Awesome Body And Won't Give It Back!

I’m smart. So smart that I convinced my husband that having our children 15 months apart was a good thing. So I have a 16-month-old and a 4-week-old, and I love them both. But my body is a wreck, and my self-esteem has suffered to the point that I’m afraid to initiate sex with my husband for fear of rejection! I am wondering if you have any ideas for toning and strengthening muscles (both inside and out, if you catch my drift) because I can’t tell if I’m doing those stupid kegels right.  Meanwhile, I fear that if these bat wings (aka arms) get any worse, I’ll be swooping into my kids’ rooms in the middle of the night for the (many, many) feedings. ...more
have patience, before you know it all that will be gone because of all the time you spend loving ...more

Sex, Here I come…

Sex, Here I come… ...more