Preschool Pointers: 44 - Never think "How bad can it be?"

Before we get into this, let's just be honest, that's just good advice for all of life any time, anywhere.But, in relation to kids (and only one way of the many it applies), here goes:Problem:...more

Preschool Pointers - 43: Use your Words

Problem:It seems no matter what you say, your children hear something different. If you tell them to stop misbehaving, they hear you saying that they are being bad. If you tell them act like big girls, they hear you calling them babies. If you tell them to quiet down, they hear, "shut up" or worse, "you're not important."Why? They've got good self-esteems, they're active and spirited and happy. Why the perceived insults and sensitivity? Why the mixed, and potentially harmful messages?...more

Preschool Pointers - 42: Hear the Real Question

Problem:You've said something, and your kids won't let it go. "What did you say?" they ask. "What did you say?" You repeat yourself to no avail. They get frustrated, and so do you. Are they deaf? Aside from the obvious answer, which is yes. No. They're not. They're just not understanding the concept behind what you have said.Sometimes they'll give you a clue, and ask specifically what a particular word means. But even then frustration can occur. It frequently goes like this:...more

Preschool Pointers - 41: Sneak in the Suggestions

Problem:Now that your kids are getting up there in years (you know, all of four or five), they're becoming a little more wily, a little less prone to obvious suggestions like, "why don't you go play with your dolls?" or "how about dancing to that They Might Be Giants CD?"In fact, one they hear the words from your lips, they may be less inclined than ever to do that incredibly fun thing you just suggested. Why? Because you suggested it. Wouldn't want to give you that satisfaction, now, would they?...more

Preschool Pointers - 40: Ask the Obvious Question

Problem:I don’t know if your kids are like mine, but if they are, they might sometimes need to work themselves up into a tantrum. I mean, sometimes the premise is so ridiculous they have to spend some quality time even convincing themselves it’s worthwhile to cry about....more

Preschool Pointers - 39: Be Prepared to Cancel

Problem:Last week, I talked about the schedule I've taken to making for the girls and I during summer. But the system is not fool-proof, and life happens. Kids get sick, they sleep too long or get up too early, you're too busy with chores, or maybe they're just involved in a crazy-fun, imaginary game at home and rounding them up to cart them to some other thing that is supposedly fun is just going to break the rhythm. But you're supposed to be at the library or museum or a movie, and you've told other people you are going, even.Solution:...more

Preschool Pointers - 36 - Love the Tantrum

I'm in a complicated phase with one of my little girls. She is dying for approval, and goes about getting it by acting out. Which means I can't give it to her. Which spirals her out of control, because she just wants me to love her GAWD. It's a horrid cycle and I'm looking for ways to break it. In that vein...Problem:...more

Preschool Pointers - 35: Bring Them

ve some adult things to do, like bring a paper to your college campus before 6 p.m., pick up some food for dinner, or run errands. You have no one to watch the kids.Solution:Just do it. Just bring them. Tell them what you are doing beforehand, and how you need them to behave. At four, they should be able to do you a favor. Like behave. Haha....more

Preschool Pointers - 34: Be Sneaky

Problem:Something simple needs to change. For instance, it's a month past Easter and time to get rid of the messy, grass-filled basket. But how dare you? How very dare you? The Easter baskets must stay forever! In fact, your kids aren't even going to eat the last of their candy. They're preserving it. Forever. This is just an example. This can happen with any object at any time. Simple things. You need to slice an apple, or use the last of the grapes, or move the chairs. Change, omg, stop it!...more