The Psychological Burdens of Chronic Illness

It’s about to get really personal up in here.I’m sure you recall me mentioning that I wanted to go back and see a psychologist again. (The first time was when I was having some trouble after sophomore year in college – completely separate issues.) Handling a chronic illness gets very stressful for me sometimes. I look around and often see all of the things that I can’t do and it’s hard to appreciate the rest of my good health. I compare myself to others and get disappointed that I cannot keep up with them....more

What Do Our Sexual Fantasies Say About Us?

Have you ever had a dream you wished you never wake from? That kind of lucid dream where everything feels so real that when you finally wake you wonder if it was truly a dream? Now, what is that dream got steamy, and the content started getting a little graphic. Suddenly the dream that you've become engulfed transforms into a fantasy....more

Introspection Lately

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, in particular about my interpersonal relationships and the workings, history, and psychology of them. This is in large part, well, almost entirely, due to a failed recent relationship that I've been doing a lot of thinking about. This relationship was emotionally and verbally abusive and led to my breaking up with the person who I now believe to be a narcissist. BUT in reviewing this relationship and the psychology behind it, I'm learning a lot about myself, my motives, and my psychology, as well. And some of it I'm not enjoying, honestly....more

The Psychology of Cosplay

There have been many media outlets that have discussed the psychology of Cosplayers from an onlooker point of view. Cosplay and Cosplayers have been described as "enabling a world of makebelieve," and "encouraging exploitative sexuality." New York Comic Con recently asked psychologists and Cosplayers to join in a panel discussion of the psychology of Cosplaying and Cosplayers based upon research and questionnaires rather than from the onlooker perspective. The panel included: ...more

3 Ways To Be More Confident

Lauren WaltersHave you ever doubted yourself?  Have you ever felt that you could be more confident?  If you are feeling this way, this article is for you.  Here are 3 ways to be more confident:1. Never compare yourself to others.  You are meant to be yourself.  Everyone is unique  and different in their own way.2. Always smile.  Smiling naturally shows that you are confident.  It shows you are comfortable in your own skin.3. Never be afraid to say no to someone.  This person will respect you more....more

Cause I'm Happy

I don't know, I'm a little scared to be honest.  I think I might be happy. Isn't that a mind fuck?  I don't even know how to proceed. It's new territory for me.  ...more

Living With a Psychopath (Impact on a Child)

We watch it on television. We read about it in tabloids. We become armchair experts on the subject, sometimes even joking around and accusing each other of being one. But, what is it truly like to live with a psychopath? ...more

A Message To The Princeton Mom About Date Rape

Somehow the Princeton Mom was not on my radar.Until I recently googled her. Real name is Susan Patton.She touts the return of 1950's thinking about women. College being about catching a man to marry.I wasn't all that affected by what she said.  She could have her opinion. After all, I remember the book by Marabel Morgan about how women should wrap themselves in Saran Wrap before their husbands come home from work. That was popular for a while.Never caught on at my house....more

The diary of an anxious young lady

I'm starting a new column named Diary of an anxious lady. I wanted to share some thoughts how anxiety feels and how to beat it if you can. I'm going to post frequently, where all of the events are real, and so are the characters. I changed their names and some circumstances. The main character in this diary is called Pelin, a girl with dark black hair, a perfectionist with an anxiety disorder. Her other half is Marcel, a boy with a lot on his mind, but carrying an endless love in his heart. ...more

Ten Things To Keep in Mind When Parenting Only Children

I was an only child, and I hated it.  Whenever I meet only children who didn’t hate being only children, and who even may choose to have one child themselves, I wonder what went right in their experience versus mine.  I’ve come up with a few things that parents definitely need to keep in mind if they are raising an only child.  ...more