You are probably doing timeouts all wrong

The last time I put my son in a timeout, I told him to go to my room. This was because every time he has been sent to his room, he still has plenty of fun distractions in there and he doesn't seem to mind as much, so it didn't really feel like he was getting the point of timeouts. It turns out, I might not be getting the point of them either....more

The Best Form of Punishment

Just one look. With one look she could obliterate a city and bring tyrants to their knees. With one look she could stop traffic, move mountains and make me and my sisters squirm. She called it “The Pearlman* Stare”. I called it creepy....more

You are in trouble - go watch television

My son loves to travel. He likes car activities, gets excited about homemade trail mix and hotels are the best thing ever. Except for the television. He hates hotel television: Mommy never knows the channels, there are commercials and he can't request shows to watch. I tried telling him that hotel TV is the way all television used to be. He doesn't believe me, but I tell him anyway....more

My Attempt at Not Saying NO

Do you ever feel as if all you say all day long is "no"? With a one-year-old, I know I sure do. I am trying to teach her, but I fear she thinks "no" is just a word I say anymore. I don't think she understands the true meaning. I have decided to TRY to stop saying the word "no" all the time. You can read all about my attempts at I am even going to try to post an update to see how I have done....more

The punishment pitfall: Why punishing your child is bound to backfire

Kids do some horrendous stuff. Flushing your wedding ring down the toilet, emptying the ENTIRE surplus size container of baby powder onto the new carpet, sneaking into the pantry and eating the whole, previously unopened bag of Pirate’s Booty…. the list is endless. It’s every parent’s first instinct to lay the punishment on thick when something like this happens....more

Fitting Punishments for Common Small Crimes

"Let the punishment fit the crime" was something that was said by someone famous.  I have no idea who. ...more

Wonderfully Maddening

.Being a parent is wonderful, but at the same time, it’s completely maddening.  As soon as I think all is well and I’m doing pretty well as a parent one of our kids decides to push their limits...more

Facebook as a Parenting Punishment Tool: Good Idea?

Denise Abbott's decision to publicly discipline her daughter on Facebook sets a precedent to be public about their issues. Technically, her 13-year-old Ava set this precedent when she first disrespected her mother online, but Denise followed suit. If the experts who say that modeling proper behavior is the best way to teach children life skills, like discretion and respect, then arguably Abbott's choice of discipline may have inadvertently reinforced her daughter's behavior instead of curbed it. Kind of like spanking a child to punish him for hitting, or screaming at a child for throwing a tantrum....more
@Johann7 Your comment has really given me food for thought. You are right. There is an accepted ...more

Make the Punishment Fit the Crime

My son came home with a detention for forgetting his book in another class.  Okay, fine.  I'm not the teacher, but if there are punishments on kids for forgetting, I'll just be thankful I"m not in school being policed or I'd be in trouble hourly! The problem I had with the detention is that it was at 7:30AM.  AM.  Before school.  Before my morning is complete.  Before I pick up all the neighborhood kids for carpool.  Wait ...more

Parenting May Be Easy, but Being Human Is Hard

Roughly five times a day, I screw up as a parent. However this morning’s antics may have earned me a spot in the Mommy Hall of Shame. At 10:00am, I had just settled down to work and a coffee, when my cell phone cheerily announced: “Chaperone Field Trip.” A pit instantly formed in my stomach. I was supposed to heading to a demonstration of the New York City Ballet with my daughter's class that very moment....more
I think you are spot on. We get so many mixed messages today as parents. And no child arrives in ...more