The Legacy of Slavery and Ferguson, Missouri

This piece originally appeared on Huffington Post after the initial shooting death of Michael Brown.I watched 12 Years a Slave over the weekend, and I've been depressed ever since. I'd avoided watching it ever since it arrived in the mail from Netflix. While I wanted to watch it, I didn't want to watch it. I was scared. But Sunday night after putting off my husband's requests for days, I finally relented....more

My Education Ruined My Relationship With My Mom

“We got dressed to go to the gym, but decided to put our house on the market instead,” my mother casually delivered this news to me on the phone and across the 1100 miles that now separate us. She was in the middle of preparing dinner; I was in the middle of a powerwalk.I always talk to my mother in transit. It is my way of multitasking, and she despises it. (Of course, preparing dinner while on the phone with me is the only acceptable version of multitasking, if she even acknowledges it as multitasking in the first place.)...more
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If you have to lie, you're the bad guy

Here’s the thing about being in the right: you don’t have to lie about what happened. The facts of the event demonstrate to all and sundry that your behavior was correct and just. That is what being in the right means. Thus, knowing that the Ferguson Police Department and the St....more

There Is No Such Thing As “Reverse Racism”

A few weeks ago, my colleagues and I were having a discussion regarding the underrepresentation of students of color in state universities across the United States. I attributed the disparity, in part, to highly segregated public education systems and Supreme Court decisions which ban race-based college admissions decisions....more
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What Does a Criminal Look Like?

Some See My Son as Black, Even Though He Is Mixed-Race

I confess to feeling safe because my kids’ biracial genes have given them lighter skin, but my family cannot run away from racism....more
deejmckay Well said.more

Realizing the Comforts of My Color: Thoughts on White Privilege

She came from nowhere, it seemed, and slipped away in the same smooth and silent way. We were at the donut shop's counter, being treated to coffee by one of the people we were visiting.  His wallet was out, and suddenly she was there, at his side, all creased chocolate skin and curls spiraling with gray and—this is what has stayed with me—dark and haunted eyes. Image Credit: Christine H. via Flickr...more
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I'm Black, Not An Alien

My entire life I have been surrounded by white people, and in school I was one of the few black students, from elementary through high school. That instantly made me the spokesperson for black people everywhere....more
What a great article! I'm married to a Jewish man and upon finding this out, a woman at work ...more

I Confess: I've Used the "N" Word Before

I was going to write a blog post about how I catch myself being extremely negative and thinking I am totally worthless, and in my head, I’ll think, “Nigga, please.” Note: I would NEVER, EVER use this word to refer to another person. I am the person this is directed to, in the privacy of my own home. I use it to snap myself out of feeling anxious or depressed. I take the phrase to mean, “Dude, I love you enough to be honest. You’re being ridiculous and too hard on yourself....more

Why It Is NEVER All Right to Call Someone a "F-ing Terrorist"

My husband and I recently took our daughter and a dozen of her friends to the movies. It was a children’s movie matinée. Our group took up an entire row in the theatre, and so I sat right in front of the kids. A few minutes before the show began, a visible minority family walked in and sat next to me, one seat down. The lights dimmed and the previews started. We were off to a great start. The kids sat behind us munching on their popcorn, slurping their drinks, eager to see the movie start....more
This was beautiful. I have considered posting a link to your article in response to some ...more