I'm not racist, but...

I don’t often write about race and racism from a personal arena, mainly because I have not experienced it often, but also wanted my writing space to be about more than the colour of my skin. And in the past, both ‘sides’ have been vocal about my qualifications to comment on race given my husband was white and our children of mixed heritage. As though that observation can be of use in any sensible debate. You see, already I’m tired and I haven’t even progressed past the first paragraph....more

Overcoming Racial Prejudice

My wonderful wife has a heart of gold. After all the years we've been married, she still amazes me. For one thing, she cares deeply for people. For another, she has an intuitive understanding of others that's almost scary. Words will come out of her mouth that are dead-on perfect while I'm still muddling through my feelings and trying to figure out what's really going on. ...more

Why I Loathe The Empty Praise of Grace

Originally posted on burymeinredlipstick.comThe praise of grace /or forgiveness in the face of vitriolic racism perpetuates the idea that anger is not a valid response. Anger is a valid response to racism. I reject the idea that someone has to turn the other cheek or hold someone’s hand while experiencing the pain inflicted by that same person in order to be seen as sympathetic. The people who perpetuate that idea are insecure with their own conduct, racism or otherwise, and want that same evenhanded approach to their misdeeds. ...more

7 Life Lessons We All Can Learn from Serena Williams

It took being on the brink of history for Serena Williams to get the level of love and support from American tennis fans that she's been enjoying at this year's U.S. Open. Never before has she gotten so much attention from the media or the nation. ...more
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Just Because You Don't Say It out Loud...

                                                          Violence, Everywhere...more

Will It Ever Be Safe to Exhale Again?

I'm still reeling from the massacre of those nine people who were slaughtered during bible study at Emanuel A.M.E. Church in Charleston, S.C. Those people were in the sanctuary to pray, discuss the Word and just like millions of other congregants across the country, to fellowship in mid-week service. It happens in nearly every church in the country. It is a mid-week tune-up, if you will, that offers a more laid-back alternative to the fuller Sunday service....more
Your story reminds me of the one that Southern novelist Alan Garganus tells about his black ...more

What Direction is Your Moral Compass Headed? Is it Pointed in the Wrong or the Right Direction?

Each of us have a moral compass. Some are pointed in the wrong direction. Each of us have a responsibility to do the right thing even when it feels uncomfortable....more
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Black History, As I've Lived It

February is Black History Month. For me, this celebration began in February 1976, when I was in fourth grade at Immaculate Conception Catholic School in the Germantown section of Philadelphia.Back then we had a mix of races in our class: black, white, Hispanic, Asian, Haitian. It was kumbaya I tell ya. Back then we fought over so-called boyfriends/girlfriends, who had the best handwriting and bad trades of oversold lunches. (I once traded a huge Italian hoagie for a never-before-tasted PB&J. I ended up in the principal’s office that day.) Kumbaya....more
“BlogHer: Black History, As I've Lived It http://ow.ly/2UgzvB” Cool! My last post was featured ...more