How To Destroy Princess Culture With LEGO Friends

Growing up I had Barbie and Ninja Turtles. I had LEGO and cars and baby dolls and a massive Barbie mansion where all of my toys went to epic parties. Although my brother did not come for a while, my sister and I were raised for eight years of my life in a very gender neutral way by today's terms. ...more
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Black is the New Pink

My daughter Tink (not her real name) is about to turn 9, and everything is changing. She has always been sassy, smart, and fearless, but until last year, she preferred to do it in various shades of pink....more

The Gutsy Girl Story

For weeks I've had on my to-do list an intention to write the Gutsy Girl Story. You know, a monologue on why I began. I don't think that's a bad idea but I don't think it is as good a story as the conversation I had with my daughter last night while she watched Dolphin Tale and I was reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg.Out of the blue my daughter says that she'd like to have her own zoo one day. She went on to say "but I'd also like to be a nurse too". We talked about conservation and the importance to our wildlife of disposing of plastics correctly, so they don't end up in our oceans....more

The Makeup Bag, or I'm the Worst Gender-Neutral Parent Ever, Part II

You might remember my writing a little piece called The Purse almost a year ago, discussing my feelings around my son wandering the living room with a purple beflowered handbag, filled to the brim with Matchbox cars.Well, today, I'm here with the sequel....more
Why you put make-up on Mommy?   Because it makes mommies feel pretty. And while you wouldn't ...more

New findings on the brain may explain why girls' mature faster

New research from Newcastle University shows that the process of re-organzing our brains' connections happens earlier in girls. This may explain why girls mature faster during their teen years compared to boys.Once we're born, our brain starts pruning its connections in order to become streamlined. Despite the fact that some connections are lost during pruning, it's actually a good thing. It keeps the important connections to enhance the brain's network of information....more

Parenting Fail: "Your Thighs Aren't Fat, but Look at Mine!"

I had a parenting failure this weekend; I almost didn't want to write about. But, my goal on this blog has always been to show the real side of parenting. The side of we don't see during pick up or drop off lines at school, during church, or out in the stores. Typically we consider our parenting failures as something we did, or didn't do. We berate ourselves for yelling, for not following through, or being distracted. We worry about the things, that can be turned around to show our kids grace and forgiveness for ourselves and other people. ...more
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Little girls learning about body image: The subtle sting of Barbie

My family spent a wonderful day at the neighborhood pool, for a friend's birthday party. It was one of our most fun pool days ever, though we didn't use enough sunblock and are paying the price tonight.There was one sad moment for me. I spent much of the day following my two-year-old around, as he played with little boats and pool noodles at the steps of the pool and hot tub. There were three very sweet little girls playing with Barbie mermaids, and my son reached out to try to play with one. The girls politely told him "No, that's not yours."...more

Are boys better in science and math because of how they play?

Are we failing our girls in S.T.E.M. (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) because we give them dolls instead of blocks? Not necessarily. But a new study has found that men still have better spatial ability than women (on average) and it's likely due to gender-role identification....more

Teaching My Daughter the "A" Word

Vivi came to the dinner table tonight dressed like Iggy Pop, except her shoes have built in disco lights and her skinny jeans were bright pink.  Topless as Iggy in his heyday.  Okeydoke, don’t forget to put your napkin in your lap, dear.  (read full post) Shortlink: Baddest Mother

Girls and ADHD: More psychological problems down the road

We often hear about boys with ADHD, but what about girls?New research suggests that girls with ADHD are "significantly more likely to attempt suicide or injure themselves as young adults" than girls without ADHD.More specifically, the study says that girls who show early signs of impulsivity were 3x - 4x more likely to do these things than non-ADHD girls....more