Not Necessarily All That Unwilling?

A few days ago a twelve year old girl (so, someone in 6th or 7th grade to help you picture it) in Texas was lured into a CVS bathroom by a stranger and raped. Do you know how Southside Place Detective Michael Kelly described the attack?Go on, guess. I bet you cannot stoop low enough in your fetid imagination of rape-shaming to guess correctly....more

Pedophile Darren Paden and the Dearborn Missouri Pedophile-Lovers Who Support Him

I am so pissed.Knowing that our culture has a pernicious and egregious habit of rape shaming victims of sexual assault, regardless of how young those victims are, does not keep me from losing my damn mind every time I read about it. You’d think I’d become jaded by now, but no; I still feel like my head is going to explode....more

An Open Letter to 'Grimm:' Victims Don't Fall In Love with Their Rapists

I watch very few TV shows. One of the few is Grimm. Yes, it has some uneven plotting but I don’t care; I dig it like a backhoe. Even when I roll my eyes at some of the stupid decisions made by characters to force a story-arc, I keep watching because I love the relationship between Rosalee and Monroe. I love that Sargent Wu is a short, Filipino badass. I love that Hank is the practical one and holds his own despite being without any supernatural skills. I love Truble despite the wretched moniker the writers came up with. ...more

Rape Culture at the Department of Veterans' Affairs

Survivors of rape should not have to hear rape jokes at medical facilities that treats rape survivors. But they do. What is the Department of Veterans’ Affairs doing to combat its rape culture?   Image Credit: Bob Shepard via Flickr ...more
As executive director, how much power/influence do you have over things like this in practice?more

India has a rape problem but so does the rest of the world.

I have traveled extensively throughout India and I have plans to go back this spring to complete a training program....more

Phyllis Schlafly Spews More Shit

Phyllis Schlafly – the twatwaffle who helped murder the Equal Rights Amendment back in the 70s and remains a very outspoken anti-feminist asshat --  has thoughtfully proffered her solution to preventing rapes  at colleges and universities: bitches ought not be trying to get educations....more

When We Talk About Rape Culture

When we talk about rape culture, we are talking about the pervasive belief that women deserve to be raped by simply existing in the world. Find that too strong of a definition?...more, I believe you've hit the nail right on the head with ...more

Is It Victim Blaming?

I was told, this week, that I am a promoter of rape culture. I was called a victim blamer.If you know me at all, in person or through this blog, you can guess that I was a bit blind sided by that. I spend my life cheering for the underdog and seeking ways to help the downtrodden. It's not just that I feel it's the right thing to do. I truly feel it is my calling from God.  So when those words were said to me I examined them very closely....more

Reblog: Poverty and the Perception of “Blurred” Sexual Lines

In 2013, Robin Thicke’s song “Blurred Lines” highlighted American rape culture with its message that when a woman says “no” to something, she does not really mean it.  The naked women parading across his video made it perfectly clear where the lines, to him, are most blurred. It is easy to look at the song — and all the controversy it created — and chalk it up to a mediocre “musician” playing a publicity stunt, a stunt that had Mr. Thicke laughing all the way to the bank. Except I’m not laughing and nor should any woman anywhere in the world....more

Rape is rape, why the confusion? Or, how a Dallas County Judge muddied the waters about rape again.

When I read about the story of a Dallas County judge’s light-tap-on-the-wrist handling of a confessed rapist, because the 14 year old victim wasn’t a virgin and had apparently given birth prior to the rape (discussion, <here>, I threw up a little in my mouth....more