Because We Can't Have Everything...

They say you can’t have everything. And it’s true. It would all be just too much to carry. Too many possessions and people and places and possibilities. Too many ideas and dreams and memories…and feelings. ...more

Change of heart over a name

A friend of mine is going to give birth to a boy in just a few weeks, and she has no idea what she would like to name her baby. "Do you have a short list of names that you like?" I asked her....more

Hindsight: Look Before You Leap

Yesterday was leap day. Not spring forward - which is just around the corner when we change our clocks - but the one extra day we have on the calendar every four years. Since it won’t come around again until 2020, I want to back up to yesterday just for a minute. For all practical purposes, having one extra day on the calendar every four years matters relative to the earth’s rotation around the sun and the exact amount of time that actually takes. Leap day buys time for the seasonal calendar to stay steady over the course of a century....more

I Took My Last Family Vacation for Granted

The last vacation I took with my parents and sister was to Puerto Rico in July 1996. I just graduated from NYU, newly dating my later-to-be husband. My sister was madly in love with her then boyfriend and played Nothing Else Matters by Metallica on loop the whole time. My parents, still two years shy of their quarter-century divorce, met some fellow Russians vacationers and got drunk. My sister and I moped around like teenagers, missing our boyfriends, and avoiding our parents....more

Why New Year's Resolutions Are Bullshit

"It is not all bad, but it is not all good, it is not all ugly, but it is not all beautiful, it is life, life, life—the only thing that matters. It is savage, cruel, kind, noble, passionate, selfish, generous, stupid, ugly, beautiful, painful, joyous—it is all these, and more, and it’s all these I want to know and, by God, I shall, though they crucify me for it."-Thomas Wolfe's Letters To His Mother ...more
Arnebya Yeah, I'm certainly not trying to deter anyone from changing. I just find that for me, ...more

The Eternal Guilt of an Immigrant

My oldest nephew will turn 16 on Christmas Eve. When he was born, I lived in Slovakia and my sister lived in Germany. The first time I saw him he was two-month-old. I still remember it like it was yesterday - getting off the S-bahn, my sister meeting me with the stroller and I couldn't see anything but layers of blankets. Holding him for the first time. Having him falling asleep on my shoulder every time I picked him up. The love. The dread. My sister bundled him up in a stroller and sent me out for a couple of hours so she could clean....more

I Haven't Always Done the Right Thing But I Have No Regrets: Here's Why

Not many people know this, but I’m a pretty big Broadway musical fan.  There are a lot of shows I haven’t seen, but I have some favorites and therefore have tons of their songs in my music library.  Nothing says ‘gangsta’ quite like rolling through the streets of Manhattan with the ‘Wicked’ soundtrack playing in your ears.  ...more

Letting Go of Anger, Guilt, and Regret -- Gaining The Inside Advantage

I recently talked about carrying around excess baggage—the stuff we don’t want or need—the negative thoughts and emotions in our heads and hearts. I mentioned one of the things you can do to help yourself is to examine the negative emotions that are in your life.  I hope that you found the list I prepared (taken from my book The Inside Advantage:  How Ordinary People Can Accomplish Extraordinary Things).If not, I invite you to take a look now at the last few Blogs on my website at

Part 7, Regrets

Hey faithful readers! The contents of this post has been removed because of recently signing a contract with a publisher :) Thank you so much for the support everyone!!! Stay tuned for more details. <3-River Rei Hayden"The night is long that never finds the day." - Shakespeare...more
Aha! Finally caught up to what I have read so far. *hugs* You're doing great hun.more