On Loving Your Second Choice

I didn't plan to get divorced.  I  certainly didn't plan to end up a stepmother.  Let's face it, neither of those gigs come with a side of public adoration, or even a modicum of respect, frankly....more

Happily Never After: Our First Year as a Blended Family

The first year of our marriage was wildly, ridiculously hard.  Like, “when is this going to end I am not sure I can take another second of it” hard.  Like, lie awake at night figuring out the easiest way to get out of this mess hard.  Running away crossed my mind more than once.  At 40.  I am not sure running away is even a thing for adults but it sounded totally fine at the time, good, even....more

Life Update: Rebuilding After Divorce


Four days together maybe the start of forever?

We had four wonderful days alone together.  My ex husband and I met at a beautiful lake in Arkansas and just were there.  We left our families, our jobs, our separate homes, our old hard feelings at home and just had an amazing weekend.  There were revelations both observed and spoken.  I saw the changes in his capabilities.  He is easily winded much quicker than before with less exertion.  However, I saw how ingenious he is about finding a way to make it work.  He used pulleys to move things he no longer could on his own.  He asked me to get things f...more

Everything Old is New Again

I'm a sister wife!!  My ex has remarried.  As he said in his wedding speech, (of which a video was smuggled out of the ceremony and into my greedy hands, ) he has met the love of his life.  Hello?  Does 27 years of folded socks, dry cleaning pick up, oh- and birthing four children count for nothing these days?  Please dont tell that to this uterus that now hits the water when I sit down to pee....more

Where's Home for the Holidays When You're Divorced or Remarried?

 —The turkey I prepared last year, when my stepsons celebrated an early Christmas with us. ...more

Garage Wail

My garage lurks behind the house at the end of a long driveway. Square, blue, surrounded by viciously thorned raspberry bushes, it’s been a looming presence in more way than one since I combined households with my husband. He’s a divorced father, and I moved into the house he shared with his previous wife and his son....more

The fine art of insincerity

Some novels are like mirrors. As you read them, you glimpse a reflection of the ugliness that sin produces in your own heart and life. That's the affect of Angela Hunt's latest story, The Fine Art of Insincerity. ...more

A Girl Raising a Boy: What I Want for My Son

 I’m a girl whose raising a boy. He’s six now; I’m 34. How can I control the programming for a gender for which I hold no code?...more

Joining the Divorce Club

For those of us who have been divorced, indubitably at one time or another, we turn the magnifying glass on ourselves and question our judgment. We scrutinize every move, every red flag missed, every sign we ignored. I [thought I] wanted something, I tried it, I gave it my best, and it didn’t work out [according to original plan]. It doesn’t really matter the reason – I thought “forever and always” and instead I got “until now.” ...more
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