Leaving Traces in Your Brain

Day after day, your mind is building your brain.  So what are you thinking about, obsessing about?  What are you enjoying every day?Due to a concept known as Neural Darwinism – “survival of the busiest” –  whatever captures your mindshare dominates your brain changes. Actually, with every thought and feeling you teach your brain WHAT to think about, and HOW you should feel. Turns out that old meditation saying is a scientific fact: “you become what your mind rests upon.”...more

I'm Still Mad: Stop Bright-Siding Me

Chest heaving, I lay on the floor, clutching a knee and half-crying. I'd just tumbled head first into a stack of plastic boxes and crashed... for no apparent reason beyond a malicious strip of carpeting jumping out to spite me.A few hours later, as I whined about the fall that broke the boxes and left my knees scraped up, my stressful work week, the wardrobe-related consequences of mainlining Rocky Road ice cream, the un-taken flying test, the un-flown flight hours, the un-written papers, the un-attained dream job, Mr. T hugged me....more
Mom to Country Kids  Oh I so get that "trudging back up to happy" thing. It's good to have a ...more

the post I shouldn't write

I work.Specifically, my work involves people. People at their most vulnerable moments. People trying to fight or fly. There are breaking points, learning curves. I am a nurse. My work is people.I always shy away from writing about work. There's this frightening thing out there called HIPAA. And though it is very good and very necessary, it makes me afraid to type out and talk about what I do for a living....more

Part Two - Sexual Trauma & Sexual Health - Dealing with Triggers

This article is part of our focus through July on Sexual Health. Stay tuned for a month-long focus on Trauma Recovery and Resilience in the coming months. Visit the Resource section of our website for more information on Trauma Recovery.By Dr. Jami Wilder...more

Part One: Sexual Trauma and Sexual Health - Understanding Triggers

This article is part of our focus through July on Sexual Health. Stay tuned for a month-long focus on Trauma Recovery and Resilience in the coming months. Visit the Resource section of our website for more information on Trauma Recovery.By Dr. Jami Wilder...more

Teaching Resilience to your Child

What is resilience? It is what you need to weather disappointments or unexpected pitfalls in life.  Some people really struggle with this: the slightest upset of plans can leave them gloomy and even depressed.Kids can really struggle with this concept as well.  Being small and relatively powerless, little frustrations can become major upsets.  If they get into a habit of giving up or shutting down at the first sign of trouble, they’re going to have difficulty overcoming adversity later on....more

Why Writers Need to be Resilient

“When the going gets tough, the tough keep going.” This is the Cliff Notes version of a concept known as “resiliency,” the ability to bounce back fast from adversity and reclaim your equilibrium. As a practicing clinical psychologist, I try to build resiliency in my clients, teaching them the skills they need to withstand the inevitable stresses and disappointments of daily life....more

Do You Need To Make That Change?

Because things are the way they are, things will not stay the way they are.- Bertolt Brecht...more

Your Daily Reading: “Living Wide Awake™” Open Your Heart 6-10-12

Chances are good that you’re learning new values and appreciating your consciousness relating to prosperity in a different way, now.Opposing Energies: Scarcity consciousness, doubt, quarreling.Wide Awake Words™ for today: Resilience, tenacity, change, movement.A change in employment, home, or travel connected with your inner restlessness will prevail.Some changes are overdue, and the strides taken will bring the variety and interest needed for your acceptance, and to settle your spirit....more

Hitting Rock Bottom

"Really, I should be dead," he said. Have you every heard the expression “he/she hit rock bottom?” This describes someone who, through various circumstances and/or poor choices, got to a point in life where there was nowhere left to go; they simply hit rock bottom. Long equated with stories of depression or addiction it can serve to remind us of just how far we can drop and amazingly just how incredibly resilient we can be....more