Are monkeys more sexually evolved than we are?

Listener Question:  Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude societies, including those of primates, with whom we share 98% of our DNA. These societies have no drawers to drop, yet raised peaceful, sexually wise kids.Maryanne Answer: Good question: what about dropping one’s drawers creates such a hard line?...more

My Secret Valentine

My Secret Valentine ...more

Ghosts of Valentine's Days Past

fThere has always been something magical about Valentine's Day for me. Not sure why...guess I'm just a hopeless romantic. Even as a child, I loved Valentine's Day... ...more

Quiz: What Kind of Shakespearean Lover are YOU?

In honor of Valentine's Day, Everyday Shakespeare has created this quiz: What Kind of Shakespearean Lover are YOU? Find out at  ...more

where is the love

Because I am stupid, my username on OkCupid was pretty easy to track back to me in real life. I had to delete my account and create a new account with a new name. It's not that I'm all that ashamed to admit that I like to use OkCupid (really, just for the tests, I swear) but it would have been easy to put my old name through a Google search and find me elsewhere and then where is the romance and mystery of on-line dating then?...more

Our Sex Lives: One Response | Women's Voices For Change

Another pre-Valentine's Day blip: a note for the editors of Our Bodies, Ourselves, whose query about women's sex lives we posted last week. We were delighted at the good news the writer reports, though due to the delicate nature of the subject she has chosen to remain anonymous....more

Does Later Equal Greater in Romance & Marriage?

“What is a good relationship? That’s what I want to know.”  This question encapsulated the point of the spirited discussion in the third session of parenting classes I was leading at a correctional facility in Boston.  Everyone got thoughtful and quiet after that question. Finally, one of the less talkative women broke the silence.  “Yeah, what is a good relationship? I’ve never seen one.” ...more

To me, this means putting the needs of your spouse above your own, and realizing that getting ...more

What Was Your Worst Date Ever? It Might Be Worth Something

For many of us, the word "date" reminds us of nervous high-school moments, our first dinner with our eventual mate, that first time after a divorce we agreed to have a drink with someone new. But almost all of us have had dates we call "bad." But what about those that go beyond bad?...more

Setting a Romantic Mood

Lucky me, my newest article is all about the seeting  the mood for romance! What I love about this is that all the tips are perfectly usable beyond Valentine's day! Love and romance don't always pick a date and time, sometimes you have to roll with what is happening. I truly hope you find these tips useful. ...more