For the 'Sandwich Generation' - What to Consider When Choosing a Nursing Home

Like many across the country, my family is part of the 'Sandwich Generation'. According to a 2013 Pew research report, "nearly half (47 percent) of adults in their 40s and 50s have a parent age 65 or older and are either raising a young child or financially supporting a grown child (age 18 or older)." Being in that position means that sometimes difficult choices have to be made. After much consideration, my mother-in-law, who suffers from late stage dementia, was recently placed in a nursing home....more

When Mom was diagnosed with cancer.

We both had jobs.We both had families. Now...Mom had cancer. Mom was pivotal, In the care, Of her daughter....more

Are you in the Sandwich Generation?

 Sometimes a thought comes to me from something someone said to me and I want to share it and hear what you think too. I was talking with Steve, my personal trainer,  the other night and the subject of stress came up. I told him that we have Danny living with us and I was dealing with a Dad whose Alzheimer’s went downhill after my Mom died a few years back.  Do I have stress? Uh, yeah.....more
i have been feeling resentful lately and then angry when I feel the guilt setting in. Nice to ...more

The life of cancer.

Despite the chemotherapy and my superhero,Mom’s cancer metastasized to her liver and lung. Two more surgeries were required.We took time from our jobs.We took time from our families.We took time to be there for Mom....more
Thank you Denise!  You are the first to comment on my blog.  I am incredibly pleased you are ...more

The daycare.

My son’s daycare was the backseat of a car.  His playtime was in a waiting room.His friends were nurses and patients.Quality time with me was in a chemo lounge.   On maternity leave,I did the all the chemotherapy appointments at first....more
I have a photo of the two of you and he is wearing it.more

The clinic.

We stood out in the sea of patients. Mom was always smiling.She was always thankful to the nurses.She became connected to these women.She began to refer to them as, ‘the girls.’ Also, Mom was never alone.We arrived in many ways, but always big.Often, it was Mom and I and my young son...And our cancer survival kit! Sometimes, all the grandchildren came.Even Nana joined us a time or two.Wheelchairs and walkers added to our things.  ...more

10 Tips for Sandwich Generation Moms to Find Balance

I am a card-carrying member of the Sandwich Generation, which simply means that I take care of my home and kids as well as coordinating care for my aging mother. After performing this juggling act for over ten years, I believe I am some-what of an expert in the area of balancing a multi-generational family. Taking care of multiple family members can be a challenge so I offer you this list of tips for your diverse family management:...more
 @Kristen Brakeman  @sandwichgenmom  Thanks Kristen! That means a lot from a fellow Sandwich mom! :)more

Sex, Drugs & Jane Fonda

You’re on the phone reporting, what is nowadays referred to as a “bullying incident,” at your kid’s camp, and forget the offending rat’s name. In mid-sentence....more

Media Exploit Caregiver Burnout

It is so interesting that the media has picked up on this topic. While it is true, murder is sensational, it is so not the right way to support caregivers. As I wrote about a few weeks ago, when Mr. Snelling killed his Alzheimer diseased wife and then shot himself, I feel very badly for his family and others who resort to violence; they have the burden of both deaths....more

Caregiving Advice: How to Survive in 'Sick Land'

Is a doctor obligated to listen, to explain and to also be a decent human being?What about the doctors? What is their role and responsibility in the face of so many medical errors, miscommunications and stresses related to health care?...more