How the Alarm Clock Reminds Us of Second Chances

The screech from the alarm woke me instantly. My body was awake but my mind numb. Instinctively, I slapped the top of the little black box hoping to strike the snooze button, silencing the wretched little thing.It worked.Exhaling deeply, I rolled on my back and stared at the ceiling.Another day.A zillion thoughts ran through my mind, my to-do list was suddenly turned back on. If you could see it, imagine an obnoxiously bright sign with flashing neon lights.Open....more
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Second Chances

Midlife love ROCKS. (Ask me how I know.)

I find myself in the middle of a Lifetime movie: Middle-aged woman leaves long-term abusive marriage, goes broke, wins a scholarship, stumbles into an unexpected career – and finds a man who’s perfect for her.A man who’s smart, kind, funny, well-read, musically talented, astoundingly physical and – bonus! – extremely handy around the house.A man who only gets her jokes but embroiders on them, and who wrote a smutty double dactyl in honor of her birthday.A man who wants her for who she is, not for the person he thinks he can turn her into....more

Longing for a Do-Over

"Do you remember those things we used to play with as kids? You'd draw on them and then shake them and everything would disappear?" "An Etch A Sketch?" ...more

The Fine Art of Cherishing

It's no surprise that all our pets have enjoyed long lives. It's no surprise the friends my father makes stay friends for life. Or that he and my mother have been together as long as they have. There is a certain respect afforded to everything in one’s life that comes with this mentality of refusing to discard things. ...more
I love the parallels you draw between our disposable society and the ability to cherish. We ...more

SOUL MATES: MIKE AND MARYLOU

I read recently that only 2% of the human population find their true soul mates because to do so requires lifetimes of growth.  I also learned that from the first moment when a person does meet his or her soul mate there is an unexplainable familiarity, a knowing that you don't know how you know, you just know that you know each other. Deeply. Call it recognition, and you know that you share a one-of-a-kind connection with each other....more

The Long & Winding Road of reshaping a family

After writing a little about my somewhat-short-and-not-so-distant past as a single mom, I wanted to write about the process of blending families.  Our family is likely the least complicated of blending since there are no other children involved.  However, it’s been a long and challenging (yet rewarding) process from single mom and “friend”, to combining our two households and all of the adjustments that come along with that, to the point we’re at now where it feels more normal and right to live this life than looking back on our previous ones....more

Tomorrow is a new Day

I have attempted so far for the month of June, to write a post every single day being a part of NaBloPoMo (National Blog Posting Month). ...more

Adopting a Dog? Consider a Shelter Dog

Every year 5 million pets are killed simply because they are "unwanted". If the dogs and cats in shelters could talk, they would tell you they once had a family and a warm bed to sleep in.  ...more

Second Chances blog for the "Nights in Rodanthe" contest

  I know all about second chances!  At age 18,I thought I had met the love of my life,Tony. We dated all three years during college,and I thought I was going to get a ring for a graduation present. Instead he broke up with me!  I was so sad,depressed,humiliated, and kind of jumped off the "deep end" for a period of at least a year or two.  I really belived i "blew it" and would never get married at that point.  However as time went by; I slowly but surely got my hope and self esteem back. Three years later, ...more