How well do you know yourself?

Inspired by NaBloPoMo writing prompt for Thursday, March 20, 2014: Benjamin Franklin said: "There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one's self." Do you think you know yourself well? In a word... yes. I would have to say that I DO know myself well. ...more

Personal Development: Leadership: Before You Can Do, You Must First Be

   He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. ~ Lao Tzo You do know that learning no longer ends when you finish school or take your last exam? As a leader, you must commit to a life time of learning. And, if you consider yourself a leader, an expert, a specialist, on or off social media, then you must know that before you lead others you must lead yourself.  Many leaders never really lead as much as they say they do, but they, of course, take credit for the good... and dish out blame for the bad.    However, sooner or later, you'll discover that leadership is more about who you are than what you do. Leadership of others begins with your internal leadership... yes, your internal leadership. You must fill up your cup before leading someone else... otherwise it'll just be the blind leading the blind. If you want to continue to grow you must continue developing yourself toward what you want to be as a human being.Living Life|With PurposeI'm talking about self-awareness.  Self-awareness provides you with the tools to achieve your goals in your personal life,  at work, with family and friends, in the community and with other social relationships.  Here are three tips to help you know yourself better and become the role model you need to be for those who look to you as a leader....more

Dare to... Understand More, Judge Less

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding. Albert Einstein Do you sometimes feel the judgmental parts of you constantly criticizing, sizing up, dismissing, and diminishing those around you. Outwardly, generally nice... helpful, polite, and funny, while internally not realizing just how much mental space and energy you're giving those internal judges... being bossy and mean. However, your judgment of others is an extension of self-judgment, so ingrained, so normal, you don’t even recognize it.  You may be insecure with yourself, so you put other people down, or fear those who are different from you, so you judge them just because they are unlike you,  or maybe you're seeking a change in your life, but, in turn, are jealous of the changes you see others are making in their lives. When you catch yourself having a defining thought about someone, step back and use the following tips to help transform those judgments you may have: ...more

I'll Skip the Resolutions, Thanks

 I used to envy people who made New Year’s resolutions, but I’ve come to accept that’s simply not me. Linking personal improvement to changing calendars no more insures I’ll stick to the plan than a false deadline would (think fiscal cliff). My best chances for follow-through come when motivation is strong. Case in point: it’s the first weekend in January and my plans to begin a blog on New Year’s Day are now underway. Had it been a resolution, I’d already be falling behind....more

Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Your Inner Mentor Can Create New Meaning

Dr. Romance writes:Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer....more

Burn the Journals! (But Don’t Forget to Back up the Blog)

When I journaled (high school, college, living abroad), there was always at least one person in my life that was given the directive, "If anything ever happens to me, get to my apartment, burn the journals. You must. Promise me."  Said with all of the drama and urgency a twenty something could muster.  My journals were the deepest darkest me, the naughtiest me, me at my most confident and me feeling most vulnerable. I wrote about everything and anything, but mostly I wrote about me.  Me trying to comprehend the world around me. You know, just trying to figure sh*t out. And sometimes it all looked a bit messy. The thought of anyone getting into those parts of my life terrified me. And now, what terrifies me more is the opposite - the thought of my blog vanishing, somehow being erased, inaccessible, to me or to anyone else. Oh the horror! What's happened? What's changed? ...more
Also, facebook is popular because you don't have to be a great writer to participate.more

Is It Hypocritical to Change Your Mind on Big Issues?

Over at Third Mom, the very lovely Margie addressed the topic of whether or not changing your mind about something really big and important makes you a hypocrite....more
Open minds get so much more done!  It would be such a boring world if we were all the same. ...more

Reach Out to Others…Who?

It’s easy for us to criticize the other woman.  Other people give us so much ammunition to use.  They are loud and noisy when they’re out shopping, they pop gum in the library where it’s suppose to be quiet… and when they drive—eek!...more


I couldn't tell you when she moved in.  We noticed her outside the bathroom window a month or so ago.  She's enormous, for this part of the world.  And at night, her body glows red in the reflected light and the marks on her "cat's face" look especially menacing.So, of course, I got the hell out of there and demanded let Mike investigate.  Because, you know, if she were to jump through the screen and attach herself to his face, I would be much calmer and more able to assist than if our places were reversed....more