I Want to Be a Diagram Friend: Girlfriendships Before Facebook

I once had a coworker who was a great conversationalist.  Amanda was reasonable, funny and perceptive.  One day after work, Amanda and I headed to a nearby happy hour to have dinner and drinks and, although we had very little to drink, upon leaving the restaurant we were stunned to realize five hours had somehow passed as imperceptibly and briskly as a sea breeze....more

An Introvert in the Information Age

(A.K.A. Too Much Information Runnin’ ‘Round My Head) I took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator personality test a couple of years ago, and found the results to be uncannily personalized....more

Running Meditation

Let me tell you how much I need to go for a run:Last night, I had a nightmare about these guys, woke a 2:30 am to make sure there were no screaming stitch-faced freaks trying to break into my house, woke at 5:30 am to see if it was time to get up, and woke again at 7:08 to discover that I had already pressed the snooze button.  Twice.There is a possibility that I'm not exactly well rested, today....more

Everybody's talking and nobody's listening. Take the Good Listener Quiz.

Mark Twain once said, “If we were meant to talk more than we listen, we would have two mouths and one ear.” We all know the importance of being a good listener. Who doesn’t appreciate when others listen attentively to us? You might be surprised to find out, most people are not that good at listening. I’ve recently heard a few programs that outline what makes a good listener and I was astonished to find that I can sometimes be a poor listener! Even worse than that… my listening habits are VERY hard to change! Yikes! This stuff takes A LOT of practice!...more

Life Politics and Quiet Activism

You all know what a mess I was two years ago.  While I fully anticipated that having kids would change my life, I absolutely did NOT have even an inkling of what was life with colic.  “Upheaval” does not even begin to define what I went through – what my family went through – just fumbling through those days....more

Do you have any unresolved childhood issues? Five things to think about

p>I recently heard Lou Giglio give a talk on the kinds of unresolved issues many of us have that prevent us from being whole people. When we aren't whole it's hard to build solid relationships with others....more

Are you giving love to your sister Divas? Take the "Don't Be Hate'n" Challenge!

Ok, we’ve all done it. You sit down in the cafeteria to enjoy your tuna sandwich and then a beautiful, thin, young woman goes prancing by and you think, “Thanks for ruining my lunch, b*@tch.” Maybe not in such strong language, but you know what I mean. Admit it! You’ve done it. Why are women in constant competition with each other?...more

Susan and Bentley


Are you happy in your current situation? Your "Limiting Beliefs" might be holding you back. What are they?

Limiting Beliefs are those little stories that we’ve told ourselves for so long, that we begin to believe them. Over time they become part of who we are and we hang on to those beliefs as if they were God’s own truth. But, these beliefs can really limit our growth, our relationships and our joy.Limiting beliefs sound like this:...more

It Took Me 57 Years

Artistic expressionism.  Drive.  Passion.  I get it.  I finally get it after 57 years and 9 months.  And I’m one of the lucky ones.  Many people go their whole lives without getting it.   Many people go through their entire lives in robotic motion, sans emotion, taking up space…wasting precious time.  I don’t want that to be me.  That will not be me!...more

It does open up a new world :) It's funny how life gets in the way of the things you love to do. ...more

Just Do It

How easy is it.... Thinking about doing what is you are supposed to be doing is harder than doing what it is you are thinking about doing.  Confused?  Let me break it down for you. Example of a something you are not doing:...more