5 Ways to Love Yourself

We’ve all heard the saying “in order to love others, you must love yourself.” I’m not sure who coined that phrase but it is so true. There are many negative things that can happen to us if we don’t practice self-love, but for this post I want to focus on ways to love ourselves so those things don’t come into play.So, what is love? Some people don’t know what love means. I admit that I also was clueless until my late 20s. It took some hard life lessons to learn how to love myself and recognize love from others....more

On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well.But much of the time, I'm proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime.I'm proud to take a shower and wash my face and brush my teeth and do my hair.Things are rough right now. The change in seasons, the decreased sunlight, the holidays approaching, my lack of exercise, my perpetual state of broke-ness...it's getting to me.  It's pushing me down. Sometimes it feels like it's pulling me down too....more

How Well Do You Understand Yourself?

 In the last few days I’ve had some really cool stuff happen in my life.  I’ve finished a project I’ve been working on for weeks.  I’ve gotten some very good news about big money coming my way.  I’ve made plans for some epic summer adventures. We’ve had weather that heaven would envy, and I’ve had a lot of time to enjoy it outside.  It’s been boatloads of awesome stuff coming my way, and…...more

Cookies and Kindness: how to be kinder to your body and soul

For many people, one of the biggest hurdles to better health is the refusal to engage in self kindness.  How can we achieve better health when we are so unkind to ourselves?...more

I gave myself permission to feel pretty (and it worked!)

I had another 'me' day this past Saturday. It seems like I have been doing that a bit lately. As a mom, I walk the very fine line between what I need/deserve and feeling guilty about spending time away from my family. Mom guilt is a son of a.... I may need to dedicate a whole post to this at some point. ...more

Self Care: You've Got to be Intentional!

"You've got to be intentional when it comes to self-care", says Dr. Hawkins. The centrality of my inside out self-care approach is intentionality and being in community, which improves one's well-being and has a residual affect on others. The key factors addressed are stress management, over-functioning, renewal techniques and support networks....more

Self-care Ideas for Moms

 If I had to describe motherhood in one word,  I'd say it is life-changing. For me, motherhood, hands down, was the singular event that turned my life upside-down. As overwhelming as it is gratifying, motherhood can consume you and make you forget what you were like before it arrived. As a new mom, it's important to exercise self-care to keep your identity (and your sanity). Below are some self-care tips I have found helpful in my experience as a new mom: Daily...more

Mother's Day: Why It's Not About Me

I have an expectation problem. A big one. A few times a year, as special holidays approach (and by "special" I mean the ones that are supposed to be about me) I start to imagine all the ways I will be honored and surprised and showered with gifts. I imagine the parade, I anticipate the pampering and the pedicure, and I contemplate how I will have my eggs prepared for my breakfast in bed. So perhaps it is no surprise that I am usually disappointed. ...more
Love your perspective! It made me rethink my own.... :)more

Lessons Learned from Taking (Guitar) Lessons

I recently took up the guitar. I've always been fairly musical. I took piano for 10 years as a child. I'm one of those adults who can look back and say, ruefully, "I would have been really good if only I'd practiced..." I sang in my school choirs from middle school through college. I've always enjoyed how easily music comes to me, but I've become rusty over the intervening years of not exercising my gift....more

Day 10: Putting Myself Less

I’m tired and in a hurry so I used the NaBloPoMo prompt: “C.S. Lewis said, ‘Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.’ How good are you of placing others before yourself?”I’m pretty good at it, particularly when I’m thinking about how others are thinking about me. Just kidding. Maybe. I used to always have in mind what a close friend says: “you wouldn’t worry so much what others thought about you if you knew how seldom they do.” This is extremely comforting....more