Personal Champions

We women are champions at taking care of everyone else in our life. That’s how we show them love. In the process, we deny ourselves and pretend that it doesn’t matter about us. Just as long as everyone else is well rested, we can stay up until midnight baking the cupcakes for the bake sale tomorrow....more

Victorious Woman Month

It’s Victorious Woman Month…let’s talk about how you are a Victorious Woman when you practice self-care. Create a Self-Care Bucket list as a reminder of the ways you practice self-care by lavishly nurturing yourself....more

Why Not Taking Care of Myself is Lazy and Selfish

I don’t know how to explain how much effort it takes to keep me upright and moving forward this time of year. For a girl who clearly suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder, Washington State is a rough place to be in the Winter months. I know I should probably change my story about how I fair in the winter months, and some years I do better. However, generally the winters I do well involve quite a bit of travel, and for reasons out of anyone’s control, there has been no travel this winter. So, without elaborating too much, I’ll just say, I’m more than a little sluggish right now....more

This is Not Working Out

This is not working outCome on. The only reason people wake up before 6 AM is for a very specific, purposeful purpose. This morning I woke up at 5:15 AM to get an hour yoga workout in…guess who wakes up unexpectedly ten minutes later? My six year old....more

Sexual Self-Care: 10 Valentine's Day Lingerie Ideas for All Body Types

I have a confession to make: I've spent more time over the past 18 months thinking about how tied my self-esteem is to my desirability than I had the entire previous 30+ years.The reasons for this are twofold: 1. I had a baby and 2. I went through a breakup. My confidence took a nosedive for awhile. I'm honestly still working on it, but the number one lesson I've learned is how imperative self-care is. Mental, spiritual, physical...sexual. True story.What's Sexual Self-Care?...more
This was a great article! thanks for the ideas.more

The Sick Guy - Shoot Him, Tend to Him or Learn from Him?

I want to talk about something that just hit me like an anvil upside the head the other day.If you've ever been in relationship with a man, trust me, you've experienced this:The Sick Guy...(shudders...)Perhaps your hackles are already raised. You're envisioning your man, lying in bed, moaning, asking for soup, and lozenges, and a heating pad, and a glass of water, and a large slice of your very soul. And he's asking for all of it in that voice that clearly demonstrates his eminent demise.Here's the play-by-play:...more

Learning to Ask and Dare

Antonio Machado said, "Traveler, there is no path, the path must be forged as you walk." I've been making my own word strewn path lately. It is flowered with stories. The sky has rained my tears and shined with the brilliance of freshly aired understanding. I have been writing. I have been reading....more

5 Ways to Love Yourself

We’ve all heard the saying “in order to love others, you must love yourself.” I’m not sure who coined that phrase but it is so true. There are many negative things that can happen to us if we don’t practice self-love, but for this post I want to focus on ways to love ourselves so those things don’t come into play.So, what is love? Some people don’t know what love means. I admit that I also was clueless until my late 20s. It took some hard life lessons to learn how to love myself and recognize love from others....more

On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well.But much of the time, I'm proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime.I'm proud to take a shower and wash my face and brush my teeth and do my hair.Things are rough right now. The change in seasons, the decreased sunlight, the holidays approaching, my lack of exercise, my perpetual state of's getting to me.  It's pushing me down. Sometimes it feels like it's pulling me down too....more

How Well Do You Understand Yourself?

 In the last few days I’ve had some really cool stuff happen in my life.  I’ve finished a project I’ve been working on for weeks.  I’ve gotten some very good news about big money coming my way.  I’ve made plans for some epic summer adventures. We’ve had weather that heaven would envy, and I’ve had a lot of time to enjoy it outside.  It’s been boatloads of awesome stuff coming my way, and…...more