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The M Word

I am a Mother.I grew up with a less than ideal view of motherhood.Because of that, I tend to look at the whole journey of parenthood in a different way than most.I don't try to mold my children into my way of life. I accept that raising children demands a series of never-ending changes. It requires flexibility and patience.A sense of humor is necessary for survival. The older I get, the more I realize that my children need me to be honest.Honest in a way that is gentle and kind. I try to be aware of my shortcomings and failures....more

How My Week of Extreme Self Care Turned into The One Day Escape Hatch

I ran into my neighbor yesterday, one of those wonderful folks who helped me out a few weeks ago, when I hit the wall. And then bounced off. Before being run over by a truck. You get the picture. Anyway, seeing her reminded me of a promise I’d made to myself during that crazy time: I was going to take a week and take care of myself. That’s right, one whole week. ...more

Mama's First Epic Self-Fail

BK (before kids), I took good care of myself.  I worked out four times a week.  I ate at least one salad a day.  I rarely ate junk food.  I slept at least 8 hours a night.  I was in incredible shape.  And now...not so much.  I don't take good care of myself because I am too busy caring for everyone else, which is a terrible excuse, but at some point, something had to give. ...more

Our Bodies Know What They Need

I'm only (only?!) four months into pregnancy, but already this early mamahood experience is teaching me so much. Number one is this: trust. I've already written about trusting in the face of fear or adversity. But beyond that I've been learning that my body is trustworthy. ...more
After 68 years of merely paying my body lip service, I have decided to follow a diet that ...more

Just Say No!: The First Crucial Step For Self-Care

It took me years to unlearn the habit of saying yes automatically when someone asked me for (or to do) something.  So often had that single syllable fallen from my tongue that I would often agree to things before people even asked.  In time I realized that I had spoiled the people around me to the point that they assumed I owed them a response of agreement, no matter how inconvenient and unreasonable it was.  Many times, if I was unable to concede, they would be agitated and annoyed—and I would feel guilty.  To this day I find that when ...more

This is the year of NO for me, too. Great post!

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False Buttons: What If There IS Something You Can Do About It

A few months back I was with a friend who was telling me about all the problems she was facing in life, which were overwhelming. The problems ranged from financial to medical and were affecting her whole family, including her parents and her children. She concluded her part of the conversation with this statement: "But, there's nothing I can really do about it." I looked at her and said, "What if that's a lie?" ...more

It's so hard to catch because it is a knee-jerk reation at the gut level. I had to pay such ...more

Good News: My Kids Aren't Actually Killing Me. It Just Feels Like They Are!

Annual check up and the news is good - I've got a resting heart rate of 51 bpm and the lung capacity of a teenager. It's official: my kids are not actually killing me. It just feels like they are! Worry lines aside, maybe motherhood is good for my health, forcing me to put all that yogic pranayama breathing to work. When things get crazy (ha! as if they're ever not crazy!), if I remember to unclench my jaw and take a deep breath, my heart slows down. All the oxygen to the brain helps me form words - like "Pants! On! Now!" - despite the shrieking I'm hearing in my own head....more

Giving Myself a Kick in the Pants

I have been SERIOUSLY lacking motivation lately.  I need to exercise.  I don't feel like it.  I need to keep on top of the house cleaning.  Don't wanna.  There's some big topics I want to cover in this blog.  Uggghhh...really?  I don't have the energy right now.  I need to do some cool stuff with the kids while we're trapped indoors.  Meh.     ...more