Why Do I Feel Guilty When It Comes To Spending $ On Myself?

I constantly feel guilty when it comes to spending money on myself.My grey hair has been showing more these days. So decided to go to the hair salon to color & highlight my hair. Called & cancelled twice before today. Was just going to call & cancel again when I happened to tune in to Oprah's show where Dr. Christiane Northrup was talking about how important it is for women to take care of ourselves or else the body/mind/spirit would just breakdown. This usually happens after age 35....more

Selflessness & Martyrdom

“It’s good to be selfless, right,” my friend said after she had agreed to holiday plans she knew would batter her emotionally. “Depends on what you mean by selfless,” I replied. “You’re afraid to upset your family, so you’re sacrificing your authentic needs and guaranteeing that you will suffer, just to give them what they want and keep the peace. Since I don’t think you’re going to squeeze an ounce of pleasure out of this, I won’t call it masochism. Looks like a clear-cut case of martyrdom to me.”...more

A Moment of Truth

OnePinky.com member Barb sent in this lovely prose recently, and has granted us permission to share it with the community. “My Truth” pain, heartache, anxiety and loss are all life's way of inviting me to grow it requires me to name my sorrows, to identify and explore their cause, to see their manifestation, to acknowledge the fear and sadness in my response to what has become a inconsolable longing inside. ...more

Wisdom From Phil

Remember Phil from Australia, who boldly shared his pink-painted pinky picture with the world? He has even more pinky wisdom to share this week. My Favorite Day of the Week: Chooseday! As I wake up every morning I realize that everything that I am about to do on this day will be done as a complete choice on my part. Yes... everything! Because I realize that, I do my best to choose wisely, and here are some of my favorite choices: ...more

One Time Offer

I write in the mornings, and most days when I wake up there is a vague direction for the morning’s writing sitting in my chest. I follow it and see what happens.  Today I woke up with such love for you in my heart, and a very simple message: I want you to treat yourself with the kindness you deserve. I want you to walk with yourself in love. ...more


"How do you get over the feeling that it is selfish to put yourself first?" I was asked this question during a self-care workshop I was facilitating. And my response? As women, we are natural caregivers and nurturers. Many of us take care of everyone else first, with every intention of taking care of ourselves too. But when all is said and done, at the end of the day we are left with no energy to do anything for ourselves but fall into bed. Does that sound like you? ...more

Celebrate YOU!

The media bombards us with images of women who are pencil thin, who look flawless 24 hours a day, and who manage all of their myriad responsibilities without ever breaking a sweat. We often fall into the trap of believing the hype and setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves. Added to that, on a daily basis we are asked to live up to the expectations of our spouses, our children, our extended families; sometimes even our friends and neighbors. ...more

Virtual Retreats - all the benefits without the hassle, travel or cost

Today in my Retreat Coach Training class we talked about virtual retreats.  You may ask, "What is a virtual retreat?"  And others may ask,  "What is a retreat?" ...more

I do something similar to this sometimes on twitter to get stuff done. A group of us picks a ...more

The Good Life

What if I told you there was a simple, five minute ritual that research has shown can actually  increases someone's level of happiness and reduce symptoms of depression?  What if I told you that either the ritual or the results (or both) were so compelling that six months after researchers first introduced the technique to their subjects, they were astounded to find that many of them were still using it--even though the study had ended after the first week.  Would you be interested? ...more

Wonderful woman profile: Beth Clough

Making a commitment to care for yourself and your friendships is as important as making a commitment to care for others. Just ask Beth Clough of Mentor, Ohio. Beth is the Social Work Director for HCR Manor Care – one of the largest long-term skilled nursing care facilities in the U.S. Read more about how Beth takes care of herself - and of other women. ...more