We all have people in our lives that have a tendency to drain our emotional energy. It may be a family member, a child, our boss or a friend.What I have come to understand is that everyone wants to be loved. People do not come into our lives purposefully to drain us emotionally. We allow it to happen. I see two aspects of how this happens....more
What is Self-Love?For me, Self-Love means that I am making my needs a priority in my life.Society teaches women to put the needs of others in front of ourselves. For years I did that. Work came first. When I married, my husband came first. Then when my daughter was born her needs also came before mine....more
BlogHer is doing an editorial series on beautiful moments, and I decided to participate. There are so many deep, meaningful moments in a life that are beautiful. These can include giving birth, which I haven’t done, or sharing a laugh with someone you love, which I have certainly done many times.
When do I possibly have time for a nap? It's about how to find the time. I often discuss the importance of self-care with parents of clients on the Spectrum. Self-care is incredibly important in any situation that is demanding, stressful, and time-consuming. Research conducted in 2009 at University of Wisconsin-Madison indicates that mother's of children with autism have stress levels comparable to combat veterans.How individual families go about managing time for self-care will depend on their circumstances. We don't expect all of these suggestions to work all of the time, for everyone in every situation, but hopefully they can help you brainstorm creative ways to take good care of yourself...more
I used to get the strangest reactions from people when I told them I was a substance abuse therapist. Usually it went something like this:"Oh my, God bless you.""Oh, that must be so hard. What amazing work you do.""Really? So what are they like?""What's the craziest thing anyone has ever done?""Has anyone ever threatened you?"My personal favorite was from my mortgage consultant when I refinanced my house. She said, "Boy, it takes a different sort of bird to do that kind of work." Um, thanks?...more
Inspired by my friend Justine's recent post about yoga over at the Lone Home Ranger, I'm finally writing this post. It's been in my head for a while but blogging has been on the back burner for the last few weeks! I've done a lot of non-pregnant yoga in my life. I did Bikram yoga for years and also some vinyasa flow and some basic hatha yoga. Yoga always makes me feel better. No matter how reluctant I was to get up and get moving, I'm always glad I did. ...more
It's true. Some days I think about what life would be like if I quit blogging. I think about how much time I would have to waste doing other things. I'm pretty sure my house would still be less than perfect. I'm realistic enough to know I probably wouldn't replace my blogging time with cleaning or laundry. I like to think I would spend more time working in the garden. ...more