On pleasing everyone

Learning that we can't please everyone is a lesson we continue to learn as we get older.  It seems the older we get, the more comfortable we become in our own skin and therefore care a little bit less about pleasing every single person around us....more

An Adult Child Abuse Survivor's Guide to the Holidays

This is a post from 'State of Grace',  a blog I maintained from 2004 to 2009. I wrote frequently and candidly about my perspectives and experiences as a survivor of child sexual, physical and psychological abuse and neglect.  This was a piece with a list of how I manage the profound difficulties of celebrating holidays with abusive members of my family.  For Christmas, 2013, I  humbly present this to the BlogHer readership, most espcially for my sister and brother abuse survivors and their allies.(Edited from original post, November 26, 2009)...more
Great list. I feel this anxiety every single time I walk through the door of my mom's house. The ...more

You Don't Have to Be Perfect, But You Can Be Good

Every few months I break down sobbing because I remember that deep down, I am fatally flawed. I am broken, defective, worthless. I am no good at anything. Everything that’s going wrong in life is my fault. I work incredibly hard at everything, and it’s still just not good enough. For a while tonight while I was crying, I thought I should go away for a week so my husband and kids could see if they’d do better without me. If they could, then I’d just go live as a hermit somewhere....more

Domestic Violence Awareness: My Story

This is extremely difficult to write, but I think my experience may help others. This post is dedicated to my former self and to those that can relate to what I am writing. I hope this brings you strength and understanding.I am an interpersonal violence/domestic violence survivor. Let me explain what goes on in the mind of a someone who is the victim of someone using physical force to stop another from doing/saying something....more
Thank you so much Karen! I really appreciate your support! Have a great day!more
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