Selfish Mama : Am I Talking To You?

Not too long ago, I was having a conversation with a friend. She was telling me about something that she'd read. It was a post about motherhood. The author was talking about the need to be a selfish mother. At first, I balked. My thoughts went straight here:...more

Is Suicide Selfish?

 To begin with, my deepest condolences go out to the family of Robin Williams as well as to all the other families who have lost a loved one to mental illness.  You have my sympathies, as do the people who have been lost.  Every time someone, anyone, commits suicide the word comes up. Selfishness....more

Because It's No One Else's Job to Put Me First

Since I have committed to blogging daily for the month of July (connecting with #NaBloPoMo and #BlogBoost), I see this as an opportunity to jot down some of the sticky notes that hang out on the walls of my mind. The notion of "Putting Myself First" used to be a scary "no no" of an idea, but it is gaining more and more traction....more
This is great! Nothing and nobody is going to make you happy, unless you are happy on the inside ...more

Isn’t it ironic, don’t you think?

The only way to get to my house, from the main road, is to drive down very short one way streets. These streets are approximately four houses long, and have stop signs at the end of them. On the street closest to my house lives a family with several children. Although each street has a town erected “drive slow” sign at the start of the block, this family added two more florescent yellow signs, with bright red flags, also saying “drive slow” and placed them in front of their house....more

Strangely, when I realized it was HER speeding and blowing the stop sign, my reaction was a mix ...more

Reincarnation strengthens family ties, while the uniqueness of the existence breaks


."Who, at the end of his career, do not regrets to have acquired an experience too late that no ...more

my first thanksgiving with a boyfriend

It's true. There have only been a few boys in my life that have actually held the title "boyfriend" and they have somehow all been meaningless summer flings. My relationship with Michael doesn't even compare to any of them, so in my heart Michael is the first boyfriend I've ever had. The only one that matters. The best. I'm sure you all know that I love him something fierce. It's obvious in my other posts about him, and it's obvious when you talk to me. I want to be around him all the time and share every part of my life with him. The same is true for the holidays. ...more

The downside of Christmas

I am truely upest and ashamed of my fellow Christians.  I realize that Christmas is an important time for many, especialy Christians who are celebrating the birth of  their savior Jesus Christ.  He is my savior as well, but you won't find me shopping on black friday.  Every year there is some horror story about a holiday shopper being trampled at a walmart or similar store, because people were so anxious to get inside to get the good deals for Christmas.  No one stops to help this poor person.  No one takes their hand.  No one shouts out STOP and help this...more

My Greedy Family: Why I Tolerate but Don't Respect My In-Laws.

After my mother in law, who I simply adored, lost her battle with longtime illness, I learned the true nature of in-law conflict. That September, I had already overspent my money into traveling "back home" for my grandmother's funeral. Not a week after I return, my husband's mother dies suddenly from complications of her long time illness. She was just over 50. We sunk another $1,000 of money allocated for expenses to travel back home again for the funeral and arrangements. Arriving in town to plan yet another funeral, I am confronted with a new beast....more

Breastfeeding: Selfish or Selfless?

When you examine the arguments for breastfeeding, most people seem to believe that it’s the best thing a woman can do for her children.  Proponents point to the nutritional content of breastmilk, the immunity it provides children and the ways in which breast-fed babies benefit in mind, body and spirit.  But after breast-feeding Ayla for nine months (with no signs of slowing down), I no longer do it just for her.  Breastfeeding is a selfish act too.  I benefit at least as much, if not more, than my infant daughter. ...more

I just think of all the mom's perks as fringe benefits :)


Me Me Me

Ayn Rand is one of my favorite authors. I would never have picked up Fountainhead or Atlas Shrugged had it not been at the persistence of a former colleague. Rand has a cult following, is frequently credited with launching the philosophy of objectivism and has received much criticism for her portrayal of selfishness as a virtue...but I have started to agree with her. Last night over wine, a friend and I held a lengthy discussion about the search for happiness and the accusations of selfishness that result when we put ourselves first. ...more