A Tale of Divorce That Is Really a Love Story: An Open, Heartfelt Letter to My Sweet Son

Here I am, my little Enlai, contemplating underneathness and upsides.  Optimism holds my hand, but occasionally I feel its fingers loosening.  And it is during these moments that I think of you, your curiosity, your laugh when I do my master Winnie the Pooh impersonation, your top-o-the-lungs shouting to anyone who would listen at the playground that you needed a plaster because your ma tripped and fell while chasing you, your desire to kiss my eyelids just as I’ve always kissed yours. ...more

In the Best Interest of the Children: Custody Considerations II

Decisions, Decisions I make decisions for my Darling Boys, intending to promote their welfare and wellbeing, every day....more

It's not easy to come to a great solution for the children. There will always be compromise. ...more

help he is stringing me along

My husband and I have been together for over 15 years...not all married....our child is 11...we moved in when she was just born...he cheated...i moved out when she was 2...and moved with him to a major city when she was 5...we bought a house when she was 8..married when she was 10...and now he has moved out....he was always in the bar and restaruant business....things got worse after I lost my job in 2009 to getting laid off....he started drinking more, staying out later and finally November 27, 2010 he would not answer phone calls or texts at 2-3-4-5 in the morning...I was pissed...he fina...more

Transitions: Advice for Maria Shriver

"Like a lot of you, I'm in transition," former California first lady Maria Shriver told thousands of YouTube viewers on March 28. "It is so stressful to not know what you're doing next. I'd like to hear from other people who are in transition... What are the three things that enabled you to get through your transition? After you transitioned, what do you wish you would have known? I wrote a book a long time ago, Ten Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before I Went Out Into The Real World Tell me some things you wish you would have known before you transitioned. Maybe it will help me." ...more

Meditate. We all have our own answers, we just need to uncover what they are. Seriously. Get ...more

Office of the Cheater

by Lianne Castelino www.WhereParentsTalk.com They say politics makes for strange bedfellows.  THEY are so darn wise.  Would THEY also know then why so many politicians, Arnold Schwarzenegger being the latest, make such phenomenally poor choices in their bedrooms? What is it with these so called "public servants"?  Do they forget how to serve their own wives and children? How many of them now have we all had to listen to as they flail around in public professing their guilt over extramarital affairs. ...more

Living Arrangements During Separation and Divorce

When we're changing our lives so radically, the less we have to figure out on our own, the more time we can devote to making the right decisions for ourselves (and our children, in many cases). ...more
useful article. unfornately, in my state, Indonesia, seem still not available. so, there is ...more

Maybe I'm Not the Marrying Kind?

Part of separation is figuring out if I want to be married at all, to anyone, ever....more

with separation from child: allow no cry, some cry, or let cry?

We had a rough one last night, Lilly whimpering, clinging to me all night. While I was lying there hugging and comforting her, I couldn't make up my mind if I'd rather it wasn't physical or emotional. Yesterday we had our second ECFE class of this semester with new kids in her class, several of whom will cry during separation. And that makes both me and my little Lilly sad. On top of it all, her best friend Anna took a spill head down the stairs from the little doll area. ...more