The Other Sex Talk

I've never had the "sex talk" that all people – both parents and children – seem to dread. I'm not a parent and when I was a child I received my technical understanding of reproduction from a health class film, which left a lot to the imagination, and the book Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex But Were Afraid to Ask, which filled in a lot of gaps that the health film skipped right over. (The film referred to a menstrual period as "the weeping of a disappointed uterus." Ick.)...more

She's growing up too fast

I can still remember the day the nuns and teachers separated the girls and the boys in seventh grade to cover sex education. In retrospect, it was probably worse for the boys, since the monsignor was brought into the school to talk to them. We girls at least had the female science teacher in addition to the nuns....more

Reader Questions January 2016 Part Deux

 Like our staff’s sweet smiles and random raging hard-ons during puberty, your slew of safer sex ed inquiries just never stop popping up....more

How are babies made?

We were eating dinner in a Chinese restaurant when my son asked me how babies were made. I swallowed my mouthful of sweet-and-sour chicken and answered him with an age-appropriate summary of how sperm and an egg join together and then grown inside a woman's womb to make a baby....more

Everybody's NOT doing it

I have spoken candidly about my sex education in the past. And, as sporadic as it may have been, it is nothing compared to my Mother's introduction to the topic, which took place when a nun drew a giant penis on the blackboard with pink chalk (because, really, what other color chalk would you use?)....more

Are You Prepared to Talk to Your Children About STD/Is?

As the number of people living with STDs is on the rise, it becomes increasingly important to learn the basics of marvelous sexual education. In the United States today, around 19 million new infections are thought to take place on an annual basis, and almost half of that number occurs in young people between the ages of fifteen and twenty-four....more

My Mom Used Pancakes to Teach Me About Sex

When I was nine, my Mother showed me a video in which a mother created a uterus and ovaries out of pancake batter to show her friend's daughter how menstruation worked. Some of you may be weirded out by this, others of you will have a vague memory of the video and rest of you will be shocked at how many hits come back when you Google "pancake batter menstruation video." (Evidently, lots of people have fond memories of that video.)...more
hlpleasurecoach BlogHer My Mom used pancakes & food to hide, deny, & obliterate the very ...more

Let's Talk About Sex

 (and yes, I am singing the Salt 'n' Pepa lyrics as I typed that title out) ...more

When Should You Talk to Your Children About Pornography?

When I was eight years old, my friend Annie told me about a movie she saw at home. She described scenes of a naked woman riding a horse and a man peeing in a woman's mouth. Many (many) years later, I realized Annie had watched one of her father's porn videos. (Is this a "Sorry, Mom" moment? I don't know.) As countless comedians have pointed out, porn is so much easier to come across these days—both for adults and children. So, because of that, we need to be able to talk to our children about it....more
I started watching softcore porn in kindergarten. It's because I had a TV in my bedroom. I ...more

I just had THAT conversation with my 6 year old!!!

I had THAT conversation with my 6 year old the other day. You know the one… how do babies get out of their mommies?Our drive home always takes us past the hospital my youngest son was born at, and some days we shout out, “There’s Joey’s hospital!”That’s exactly what we did the other day, and then everything changed when Ben, my 6 year old, said, “Mommy can babies be born any place besides a hospital?”Innocent enough question… so I thought.Here’s what happened next:...more
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