Why is sex always surrounded by shame? Shame is not guilt. Guilt is an internal notion about a specific action. Shame is an external force exerted by others. Shame tells you not that you've done something bad, but that you are something bad. That idea takes away your autonomous control over your sexuality. And anybody who wants to take your autonomous control over your sexuality does not have your best interest at heart.
I came of age in the early 70s. Drug experimentation, sexual freedom, ignoring social conventions, and breaking/bending the rules abounded during that time. I didn’t succumb to drugs or drinking alcohol at all. ("Don’t drink, don’t smoke, what do you do?", went the lyrics from Goody Two Shoes by Adam Ant.) But sexual freedom, ah, that was my frontier.
My Favorite Scorpio sent this to me. I thought, in view of all of the Christmas shopping and parties happening in the near future, it would make a good reminder. Love to him for remembering me. Love to you for taking the time to read it through!
Please pass it along… A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
“Your shirt or sexy lingerie?,” I text My Favorite Scorpio. Honestly, the men in my life have it so difficult. I ask them the most point blank sexual questions about men and their perceptions of women. Then, I stand back innocently expecting an answer.
Of course, the great thing is that the few men that are really close enough to me to encounter this triad of personally evasive questions seem to love to share the answers.