Redemption

All of us know it. The feeling of a sinking heart, blush of the cheeks and crushing embarrassment. For some of us the tendrils of this dissolute emotion of shame can morph into anger or depression, sometimes both....more

Shame: I Have a "Butch" Fiancée and I Still Pointed a Student to the Wrong Bathroom

Today I felt more shame than I have ever felt before in my life. I felt like a failure to my lesbian and educator identities....more
Wow, powerful stuff going on here! I sometimes wonder if I would be different than I am now if I ...more

Calling Out Shame

I recently watched Brené Brown's Ted Talk, "Listening to Shame." As she described some of the messages shame tells us, I got noticeably uncomfortable and started to feel like I might cry. I am very familiar with feeling "not good enough" and questioning, "Who do I think I am?" ...more
Lisa Thomson  Thank you for your comment.  It's important that YOU are not any of the things ...more

How Did I Miss Fat Shaming Week?

I'll Be a Better Mother Tomorrow

Time is my friend, and my children's friend.   The other night when I came up to tell Lola goodnight I was in a hurry. Bubba had been traveling a lot lately and we had some catching up to do on our couch-snuggling, Breaking Bad routine.  He was waiting downstairs and I was hoping for a smooch on Lola's forehead, a tug of the covers to snug her in and a quick exit. She asked me to give her a meditation. I whined. Dude, it's late. You should have thought of that before you goofed off for 15 minutes instead of brushing your teeth and getting your pajamas on. ...more

Judge Orders Man To Wear Idiot Sign

Will wearing a shaming sign change a man's behaviour? I guess we will find out. An Ohio judge ordered a man to wear a sign saying he was an idiot for a week. The sign said,  "I apologize to officer Simone & all police officers for being an idiot calling 911 threatening to kill you. I'm sorry and it will never happen again."...more

Zits

It started the summer that I turned twelve. It started on my face, just a few red bumps across the bridge of my nose. I poked at them and they sort of hurt. At first I wondered if the bumps were a sort of rash or allergic reaction, but after a week or so I realized what they were. Zits....more

Levels, Shame, and Joy . . . Oh, My!

To Do List Clean (really clean) the first levelStraighten the second levelBankGasConsignment ShopEspresso Beans at A New Day BakeryDrop note with tin of cookies at Blatters  Dear Mr. and Mrs....more

Bullying Prevention Month: News Anchor Responds To Fat Shaming Email On Air

Jennifer Livingston -- an anchor/reporter at News 8000 in La Crosse, Iowa -- gets emails from viewers every day. But this email? This day? Enough is enough....more
You gotta be kidding me.  Calling someone "fat" is now bullying?  OK, now I'm going to put on my ...more

Letting Go of Shame

I have buried two shameful secrets for most of my life. Today I'm coming clean.The first involved the Scripps-Howard Spelling Bee. When I was in 6th grade I made it to the district level and breezed through the written portion of the contest. I got through a round or two of the spotlight spelling, but fell later on the easy-peasy word gauze. Shame filled me. How could I have failed so spectacularly? I was certain that everyone in the room was laughing at the stupid idiot girl who messed up on a one-syllable word....more
 @Barbarahughes Thank you, Barbara. I wish the same for you :-)more